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stephytee87
writes:Ok, im going round to my ex's house tomorrow night. We decided to meet up. He's already told me he doesn't love me but i honestly don't believe him, his head's all over the place. I love him sooo deeply and when we talk on the telephone we're all normal, and it's like it was. I think if he got a chance to see what we used to be like before i started moaning at him then he'd want to try again.What do you think i should do tomorrow night? I was gonna take dinner for us and a dvd. Should i say or do anything? Thanks.x
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reader, Manya  +, writes (27 February 2008):
If your "moaning at him" meant nagging, then apologizing would be good, as Annalisa suggests, and I agree that you should keep it a not-too-late evening.Please don't go overboard!! Even plan an exit idea in your head. You don't want to overwhelm him. Have a wonderful time together, but be mysterious and light. You don't need to re-hash old stuff the first time you're hanging out together. Just be yourself and if you've enjoyed DVDs together before, why not bring one. If he invited you over, maybe he should supply the food. You could bring dessert or something?????? I don't know your style.But don't get your expectations up. Keep it light so there'll be a next time!!
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reader, stephytee87 +, writes (27 February 2008):
stephytee87 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeah, im fully aware he might say he still feels the same. but the thing is, i've had three weeks to think about it, and im not blowing my own trumpet, but im not an idiot. I know he's the one for me but whatever he's going through is clouding his judgement.I just want him to see what a mistake he's made. The last few months, i never made him feel appriciated or admired, and i know thats what men crave. I made him feel like he wasn't good enough and now i don't have him i realise he was more than good enough.I am in agony over this.xx
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reader, clare123 +, writes (27 February 2008):
my advise from being in similar situation under no circmstances bring up your relationship and the past unless he does first. liston to what he want s to say and let him lead the concersation, just enjoy each others company and have a laugh, if after this he tells u that he doesnt want to be with u and just wants to friends for example then u need to move on and finally let him go thou. its the hardest thing to do but you cant force someone to love u take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): I personally would take his rejection like a strong woman and let him be. But it sounds like you are going to go to his house anyways. So what I would do in this case is try to be really SUBTLE and perceptive. Be really nice. Don't talk too much. Don't waste words. But when you do speak, say stuff that is really worthwhile and stuff that you really mean. Such as "I never told you this but I am truly sorry for doing this or that." And make it meaningful. Rather than point out a list of things you are sorry for just say the most important one, say you are sorry, really mean it and then drop it. And above all don't go in there expecting anything. Just go as a friend. Be at peace before you go. Be calm. Be rational. And don't expect anything.
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (27 February 2008):
 If your idea works, you run the risk of fooling yourself back into his arms, only to realise he still doesn't want to be with you.
You need to talk about what's been going through his mind. Have a friendly evening in and just ask him how he's been. Calmly try to find out bits of information.
Saying you're sorry for all the times you've nagged might be a good idea!
...But then let him go home and give him time to clear his head.
I hope things work out!
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