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writes:I know that there are like thousands of posts on here about this topic but non of them seem to help me with my pain.I've just left school and moving onto college next year but I love my female science teacher to bits, she is the most amazing woman I have ever meet and shes only 7 years older than me but age doesn't really matter for me as long as you both love each other and are happy.Yesterday I went to a review of the staff at my old school (she orginized it, I thought that when I come to tell her it would show my support for her) anyway I saw her dance and everything she look so beautiful in her dress but now I am in so much pain that I just want to tell her everything but I am very scared to do that, I know that she is single and we almost kissed once!! According to the law we can have a relationship because I am of consent but I don't have the first clue on how to tell her that I love her (ITS NOT A CRUSH). I want to keep her in my life but at the same time try to have a relationship although the probality is small I want to to try. Also would it be wrong to ask her to dance with me at the prom? or be very weird with all my friends watching although they all do know about my secret love.ANyway I don't know how to tell her: face to face? email, on a date?? everythingPlease help me all I want is herThank you guys for everything
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Love is just better than everything ,i know you afraid of the society,culture,enviromental effect.i advise you ignores about culture ,family and any other please live your life and also follow that life.finally tells about what you feel about her if you succed this thing please write your replay message ,i will be wait your message because i embrased your life.have a nice life
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reader, nicole5178  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 I say go for it. I mean, you'll always wonder what would have happened if you had not at least given it a try. If you all are really as close as it seems you are, she'll let you down easy if she's not interested--she's not going to rip your heart out.
My advice would be not to do it at Prom, as it's more of a school-centered event, and people are still filling their roles as teachers and students. Keeping in contact through email, and then maybe visiting her after school starts up again and asking her to have lunch on a weekend with you so that you two can catch up sounds good to me. After that, ask her if she'd be interested in having dinner sometime (I wouldn't baltantly drop the word "date" in the conversation unless she asks sometime). Just have patience.
But, yes, you definitely should try. Best of luck to you!
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (4 July 2008):
 its not an crush, its infatuationi feel like giving some grand Shakespearian speech, but tis too hot today.so in a nut shell, Not gonna happen. maybe hang around abit for pubirty and your big boy head to grow in. then once your balls drop you'll stand a chance."we almost kissed once"i almost kissed Angelina Jolie once.but the glass kept getting in the way.. and she was hunting for old treasure and fighting bad guys.or was that a movie i watched..so by "we almost kissed once" you mean i wanted to kiss her but i was sitting at the back of the room while she was sitting at the front behind her desk?Yes i know wah wah wah you love her and all that misrible crap. How did you Almost kiss her? Exact details.and made up one's don't count and neither does buying a blow up doll and printing off a picture of her face and gluing it to the doll.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 Hi mate,
sorry but I'm going to have to be the one to burst your bubble.
I was like you , I couldnt stop thinking about my French teacher she had the most beautiful smile and the most wonderful boobs. I couldnt breath when I saw her.
But it is never going to happen, you honestly think she would risk the ridicule of her colleagues for a fling with a teenage boy?
I'm sorry mate, stop torturing yourself.
O.K fine , ask her for a dance and tell her that you find her beautiful. She will think that is sweet, but if you have any ambitions of a physical or emotional relationship you are kidding yourself.
You are just going to have to do what every single other lovesick teenage boy has done for centuries my friend, suck it up and grab a box of tissues when you go to bed. That's what your right hand is for champ.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): The answers given already are very good and should give you a basic start. You really should wait a while, untill your well away from school, probably give it another six months to a year. But a dance at the prom shouldn't hurt. You present as 16-17 (overage) and currently living in the UK. As soon as the prom is over and you get your exam results you have official left school. As an adult you can talk to anyone you want, but it's probably not best to approach her at school. The danger to her job still exists because your not yet clear of your school days. After the prom, leave it for six months, then go back to school and ask her if she'd like to meet you for a coffee so you can catch up on any news. Remember she's an adult and so are you, she might already have a boyfriend, you still might be too young for her, she might not find you attractive, so she still might not be the woman for you. Good luck.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (4 July 2008):
 As you say, there are thousands of posts on here on this topic, and no doubt thousands more rejected as "asked often".
Never mind. I like your question!
You do know that you have about as much chance of succeeding as a snowflake in hell? But I don't suppose that stops you wanting to try.
As you say, there's nothing really to prevent you or her now that you've left the school. So why not? If you have enough nerve for it, then I reckon the dance at the prom is the perfect opportunity. No reason you shouldn't dance with her, and assuming the music isn't too loud then that's the ideal time for a few words - maybe something along the lines of "You really are a very, very attractive woman". See how she reacts - because if it's totally negative then you really don't want to go and make a fool of yourself, do you?
I can't believe I'm encouraging this!! but I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (4 July 2008):
Well since you've now left school there is nothing stopping you asking her out for dinner.
However, people will still talk and people will still view it as a teacher/student relationship. It may affect her career.
If you truely are in love with her then you will want to do what is best for her, and what will let you both be together. Ask her out but you may want to wait to start getting serious for a few months / a couple of years till you are 18 and well out of the "innocent child" stage.
Good Luck!! xx
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