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writes:im 19,single,woman,im in my final year in school and i am also in the army but i have been sleeping with my sargent(36yrs old,married with 2 young sons) for the last 4months we meet up every weekend and have the best sex ever i think i am falling in love with him i cant tell anybody bcoz we will both get kicked out of the army but i tink i love him he drives me anywhere i want to go and he buys me things and always giving me things and he rang me once and asked me if i wanted to crash at his house for the night(the wife and kids went on holidays)but he never wears his wedding ring!!!maybe he is not happy in his marraige??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): He's using you, he is in a position of trust and abusing it, you get caught and he will deny it and call you a liar, he will try to lay the blame squarly at your feet to wriggle out of it and save his carreer, what happens if you break up with him he can make your life hell in the army he can order you and force you to do things that you may not want to do, thats rape.
This is really serious, if he is abusing you, then he has most probably abused others and when you move on there will be others after you, this man does not deserve to be in a position of authority over anyone, he needs to be court marshalled for his behavour and thrown out of the forces, he has comitted possibly one of the worst crimes in his position you owe it to those who he might have abused before you and to put a stop to him possibly doing it again to any others,
What happens when someone, even you, says "NO" he will try orders and threats, he could put whoever it is on extra duties and wear them down until they submit, he at the moment has the power to do anything to you, only YOU have the power to stop him, he will try anything to not only get what he wants but also protect his job let alone what is left of his family, if you allow him to get away with it then you have given him the right to continue abusing you throughout your carrer and others along the way.
He is a cheating lying scumbag and if you let this happen and let him stay in a position of authority over other unsuspecting girls in the army then you are no better, if you dont speak up now, your carrer in the army is over already, what sort of carrer is it when you know someone has the power to abuse you at any time, the longer you let this go on the harder it will be for you to get out of it,
Talk to the most senior person you can, come clean, by doing this you have a chance of saving your carreer, you have been stupid but you havn't done anything too bad, you have your life ahead of you and a good carrer in the army to look forward to if he has told you that you will get chucked out of the army as well then this is the first step of him protecting his nasty little habit, you are a victim and have been groomed to supply him with his pleasures, Think of all the others that he will abuse, because if he gets away with it you will have given him the oppertunity and the means to do it again and again, there are a lot in the army, boys as well who are too ashamed to come forward and expose their abusers because of rank and threats and the army is to blame as well for giving this man and others like him god like superiority over young recruits,
He dosn't love you, he won't leave his wife for you,and to be with you he will have to leave the Army and there is no way he will do that for you,
REPORT HIM AND PUT A STOP TO THIS ABUSE IN THE FORCES
GOOD LUCK
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 November 2006):
 Knock it off Private. He's using you and you know it. All it takes for you to spread your legs is to be driven somewhere and some knick knacks? Pull yourself by your bootstraps soldier and show the sergeant how people with honor and integrity behave. Today.
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