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I'm in love with this girl, but I have a boyfriend.

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Question - (15 January 2015) 1 Answers - (Newest, 16 January 2015)
A female Sweden age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Me and my boyfriend David (not his real name) have been together for over a year, we're perfect for each other, total puppy love. We’re both 22. But there is this other girl, let’s call her Luna, she's a bit younger than us. I’ve met her in college some months ago. I've always had a minor thing for girls, and I know she’s openly bi. Well, the thing is that since I met her, I always had a thing for her. I can assure that my feelings, right now are, or seem stronger for her. She’s perfect, sensitive, beautiful and she understands me. The other night we went out to a bar (David wasn’t in the city), and we ended up kissing, but nothing more than that. It was wonderful, but I regret it… I don’t want to cheat him. So, I think that this is the problem. David is totally a sweetheart, he always pleasures me, he cares for me…although at this moment I feel I can’t reciprocate him. And sexually everyday I'm less atracted to him. I can’t tell him that I’ll leave him for a girl, I don’t want to break his heart. But I want Luna so bad, and I can’t stop thinking about her.

I need some advices. Should I start a relationship with Luna? What if my feelings for her are only temporary, or might be this only a “phase” in my sexuality? And how do I tell David about my feelings for Luna?

Thank you so much!

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A female reader, AFoolishGirl United Kingdom +, writes (16 January 2015):

well, the first fact is, if you are completely satisfied with 'David' you wouldn't be into anyone else, but by your description, its obvious that is not the case, and David can not give you all that Luna can. But do you now Luna wants you in the exact same way as you do her, I mean, David is very sweet by the sounds of it and cares much about you. I think what you need to think about is would you rather have a sexually based relationship with Luna or a loving relationship with David? Personally, I would try discuss the situation with Luna, maybe she could show you she really cared for you too, and if she didn't exactly care, Davids always there for you

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