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writes:i am in love with my wife's sister...she is getting divorced. i am not in love with my wife anymore.i want to be with my wife's sister...should i tell her and hope for the best or what
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): ABSOLUTELY WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS! Stop being selfish and think of other peoples feelings. You can ruin a lot of friendships even the one with the sister! You have to think of how that will effect all the kids in each family and the stress between the sister and her family and how uncomfortable it will be. You need to keep your family morals straight and move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): I am in the same situation.....My wife's sister is living with us for about 4years, and I enjoy the site and peaks of checking out my sister in law. However, under these circumstances, this kind of reality will come to light despite ones values, rules, attractions, etc....it can happen.However, I do enjoy the fantasies, but I don't know how would I deal with the reality of having hooked up with my sister in law. I think I am in love with you in a close and equal share as my wife. The most you can do is keep quiet about this, and don't mention this to your wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): I totally agree with LauraE -- "Sometimes, it really is better not to go for what we want." This may be painful, but give it some time. Really reflect on all the bad things that can come out of this situation, as well as the reasons why you fell in love with your wife in the first place.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Great answer LauraE. No good cancome of this.
You know that. You'd have to go and live with her on some deserted island.
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (4 July 2007):
There is no law against it - I think – actually there might be in some countries. Assuming you suspect that she loves you too – you didn’t say - think about the uproar this would cause. You would still have to be in contact with the family if you got together with her. What would they think of you (and her) – not very much. Can you ever imagine you all sitting down to dinner ever again? What about Christmas? Birthdays? Family weddings? You would be turning one sister against the other, forcing the family to take sides – mostly against you. It would be a horrible mess. Even if you did both feel something for each other, it would have to be something exceptional to withstand the heartache that all of that would bring. I would say emphatically, keep quiet. You may even find that that there is already another man, as she is getting divorced. Think about your own marriage separately from this feeling you have for the other sister. Don’t you think you might have fallen for her because she is very like your wife, but without the years of ordinary living which has taken the romance away? Sometimes, it really is better not to go for what we want. Wait, give yourself a chance to get this in perspective, it may be out of your hands anyway.
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