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writes:I was with my ex for three years, we had a son together who's now two, we were pretty unhappy, we fought quite often and she said we should break up. This was almost a year ago but heres the thing, we are around each other all the time, slept in the same bed for a while and over christmas and new years we had sex quite a few times, but she has a boyfriend who is three hours away from her and I and i've tried to get back with her to make my family whole again. I love her with all my heart and soul and would do anything for her! I've told her this! She doesn't like to talk about serious things face to face so I write her little letters and leave them for her telling her how i feel and have told her to her face. I gave her a valentine before she left for the weekend with a hand written poem inside. I'm desperately, insanely in love with this women, I feel i messed things up in the past but want her back so bad! I want my family back together! Can you please, please help me? This is begining to kill me!!
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reader, Cosmicimpulse  +, writes (21 February 2010):
 Hey there,
number one, you really need to demand a face to face conversation with her, even if she doesnt want one, putting myself in her shoes i think she has sort of made you fall in love with her, for the reason that you slept together over christmas and then nothing has happend, like giving you false hope really, and if she didnt want anything but sex from you then its wrong to get your hopes up and make you fall in a deep love if its not going anywhere because thats extremely painful for you.
Now with all the negatives out of the way, like i said in the begining, all the love letters ect are very sweet and shes lucky to have a guy crazy for her! but you need to demand a face to face talk, because as you have a son ect, i can tell your not a teenager, so its not all childs love when u can just msn it to her because its serious adult talk and she needs to know how you feel face to face, things are more serious that way and you can get an instant reaction from her. Good luck, please keep me updated because that is just the first step in getting back with her, as she hasnt told you how she feels, this could be a negative thing, unless she is shy that is.
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