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writes:I know this may seem wrong, but I'm in love with my daughters friend. I divorced my daughter (Ashley)'s mother about 2 years ago and I guess I've been looking for someone to be with. But there's more than one problem with that. First, She's 17. Second, she's my daughter's friend. We've kissed and touched, but I don't know how much farther I should go without ruining the relationship with me and my daughter.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): The girl is only 17 and she has no clue what she wants out of life. I dont think that your daughter would be to happy to find out that you have been messing around with her freind. If you two are really in love then I think you should wait and stop messing around becuase you can get in to big trouble if something happens and she regrets it. I know that they say that they wont say any thing but sometimes when it comes down to the time after it happened they change their minds. I know I had a freind in this stuation and he is in a state prison becuase of a situation that you stated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): Grab any happiness while you can their is too much worrying about rights and wrongs we will all be dead in a hundred years and none of this will matter if she wants you hurrah go get some love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): actually in most places its not againsed the law with that age gap even really..its sort of right on the line... i dont see anything wrong with being either sexually or emotionally attracted to her either one . but for the sake of your sanity just leave her alone she is just going to end up breaking your heart. guys turn into the men they are going to be at the age of 15-20 girls on the other hand change constantly until darn near middle age might just wake up alone one day.. but if you think shes matured and thats what she really wants long term not just the thrill of the moment kick most girls her age are looking for as well as guys then go for
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reader, heyshaba  +, writes (9 June 2007):
Forget about it. NOW. Unless you wanna go in prison. PRI-SON. You get that word?
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reader, lisarocksyoursocksoff  +, writes (20 May 2007):
 this is an extremely delicate situation, especially when emotions become involved.
i suggest that before things roller coaster out of control, you sit down and look at your options, and prioritize what is most important.
because you may lose your daughter.
if you look at all your options such as a possible relationship in the future etc then you might be able to have a clearer understanding, and try ensure that you do what is best for other people.
because remember she is only 17, a time when girls are experiencing a wide range of emotions and experiences, and at that age; certain situations can be impossible to deal and very distressing with if she has never encountered with them before now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): If you are truely inlove with her then you will wait till she is 20 years old. Once she hits that age she is no longer considered a child and it would be far more acceptable for your daughter. I do not see a problem with age gaps but she is still very young. I dont consider you a pervert. Its only natural for you to be attracted to a girl who is entering womanhood. I can remember when I was 17 I would be attracted to older men 'cause to me, they offered more.
I never slept with a man till I was 19, when we both thought it was safe. I can understand her and I am pretty sure I can understand you, but unfortunatly she is not at a legal age yet.
As far as her being your daughters age that shouldn't matter. My grandmother is 25 years younger than my grandfather and they have had a lovely long realtionship. He was a friend of her family and he waited for her till she was 21. So socially that would have been tricky too.
When she is older,a little wiser and you both are still serious, she will need to talk to your daughter together. She will not appreciate being kept in the dark.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): The film american beauty comes to mind......i wouldnt continue this, as the person just said your "sexually aroused".....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 May 2007):
 You are not in love you are sexually aroused. You also are not thinking clearly. There is no excuse for your behavior. Knock it off before the girl's dad shows up on your doorstep and knocks your block off. How would you feel if some old fart was diddling with your daughter? Get a grip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): Bloody hell man, turn back NOW!
This will be the least hateful comment you will read.
If you continiue taking steps on this path, you will ruin all respect from your family, friends and everyone you meet.
You will be hated by everyone. You do not want that.
You have lost the respect of your daughter.
Turn back right now. Apologise to her friend, and save them both the torture that they will endure getting over this.
You have had your time.
Stand back, and move on with your life.
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (11 May 2007):
End it now, and yes... You're a dirty old bastard. Too late, you've confessed to doing something no parent should ever do. You have taken away the sense of security around your home and yourself from your daughter. You have probably interfered horribly the healthy emotional development of your daughter's friend.
You have, in fact, become a sexual predator. Now go crawl under a bed and be ashamed of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): im not sure what u mean by touching but just by kissing her, i think its safe to say uve already ruined the relationship with ur daughter. u have crossed a line which NO parent should EVER cross. shes the same age as ur daughter for christs sake!!! do u really want to be labelled as a dirty old man for the rest of ur life? no i didnt think so, so end it NOW before u loose ur daughter forever
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