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writes:i am still in love with my cousin. i lost my virgity to him and were togther for 2years behind close doors. he stopped everything recently claming he could not take it because he wanted to be with me the way he should and now he's dating a friend of mine. he's moving on and he likes her, but i am so emotional am finding it hard to accept the break up. i need help.
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reader, notlamc  +, writes (28 January 2007):
 I had a 9 year "puppy love" relationship with my third cousin - Society can be damming against non-conformists but, in reality, we al have our secrets and vices.
No one is perfect and anyone who discrimitates against you for being happy is jealous of that happiness or cannot accept you two as a couple (due to family ties).
Real friends (and family (as was in my case)), will stick by you.
You lost your virginity to him so you also feel a lot more emotionally for him. That's normal.
Have you thought that by choosing your friend, he might feel like he still has a connection to you.
Us men are funny creatures and maybe the prospect of family and friends discriminating against you was too much for him.
I know this is not really an answer, but just some input.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): Well, it's possible he felt pressured by local society that cousins shouldn't be together, etc, etc. So he chose your friend over you.
Aside from that, getting over anyone takes time. As I have mentioned about a zillion times in the last 120 hours, work on building yourself first before venturing into new adventures of the intimate kind. Build on your self-esteem, work towards your goals, and solidify your interests. When sh*t happens, things seem so much more clear and easier to pass than when you are like this now.
Sugar coated words you request? Then we'll wait for other aunts and uncles to make their points. Though I would like to prepare you beforehand that there are the many anons that lurk here on DC that may or may not attack you because of their 'moralistic' beliefs or rather, their lack of neutral insight.
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