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male
age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I've been in a relationship with a girl I really love for a little over fourteen months now. We attend college in the same city as each other and met as a result of that. We know we'll be able to be together for at least the 2+ years we have left at this school, but I could see myself with her for longer.We have a lot in common, we have a lot of fun together, I really care about her and I consider her my best friend.But another girl who is friends with both of us (better friends with my girlfriend I think) is really weighing on my mind. I've known this girl for about a year and my feelings for her became clear very shortly after. She's very beautiful, she's very smart and I feel great when I'm around her. She goes to a college farther away (about 5 hours away) and she's not in a relationship. I thought these feelings would pass but they've only intensified. I think about her more and more, whether I see her or not. It's a feeling unlike any other. I don't even know if she'd be interested in me but we're great friends and we spend a lot of time talking. Sometimes me, my girlfriend and her hang out together which complicates things even more. I'm not a person who is easily troubled. But this is starting to cause me insufferable amounts of anxiety and its affecting my day to day life. I feel trapped and I don't know what to do.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (30 November 2008):
 Hi,
You seemed to be pulled both ways here and i am wondering if the other girl is just a infatuation with you?
It seems really unfair to your g/f if anything untoward took place whilst with her that just would not be the proper thing to do.
I think you need to explore your feelings further and ask yourself if they are that strong your prepared to break it off with your g/f to pursue this girl?
Also take into consideration she is friends with your g/f as well as you not a pretty picture if it is shattered.
Think carefully here what you do because an innocent girl could be devastated by this and for all you know the other girl might not see you the way as you do her she may well be totally offended knowing your with her friend so be careful here think what your doing carefully good luck.
Ginalolabridga
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