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anonymous
writes:I'm so so so tired. Everyone seems to want a piece of me at the moment and theres only so much of me to go around! - My mother needs me (1 parent family, thinking of leaving long term partner)- One of my closest friends is leaning heavily on me, she is anorexic, and has big problems within her family and at school- Another of my friends has for no obvious reason stopped talking to me- Teachers are on my case nonstop when it comes to work etcI need some time for me, to catch up with myself and I don't have that time. Everyone turns to me, but who do I have to turn to? I'm not sleeping at the moment because I have so much going on I'm so tired all the time. And it feels like I'm doing a heck of alot for other people and I'm not getting anything back. I need time for myself as you can tell I have a huge amount going on with me at the moment. Jeeze I don't know how much longer I can help everyone for, they are all leaning on me, and theres only so much I can do for all of them. I happy to be a shoulder to cry/lean on but its getting too much at the moment, I feel like I'm about to crack under all the pressure I'm under. What do I do...? Please I'm just so so so tired...
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reader, jenna34  +, writes (25 February 2008):
People are always going to need people but this seems like normal stuff- your life will actually get much more demanding when you have a family of your own. Is something else bothering you? Sometimes when people are depressed they feel overwhelmed and small things get blown out of proportion. I agree that you should go see a Dr or talk to your school counselor. Everybody's tolerance level is different and you just may have reached yours which is okay. I also think it would be good for you to see your school counselor about how you feel responsible for everyone's problems, this does not sound like a healthy mentality to me. This could lead to problems in your future relationships if you assume everyone depends on you. You will believe everything has to do with you and take everything personally. I agree with the statement about attracting drama, perhaps you like to believe everyone leans on you so you can feel important?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): Most people I know deal with a lot more than that and don't think "everyone wants a piece of them".
It's called life, get used it it. You act like you're doing all this stuff for other people but all you're doing is complaining. You are acting like a martyr.
If you are serious about the being tired all the time, you should see a Doctor- this has nothing to do with people leaning on you. I have 4,500 clients I'm responsible for that drain me dry sometimes, children, mortgage, friends, etc..and I certainly don't get "put out" by some serious issues that some of my friends have had.
There are housewives out there that are so unappreciative for the work they day and they do it day in and out.
Do your friends a favor and stop being there for them until you get yourself taken care of.
You may be one of those people that are not able to handle much stress in their life and you need to go see a Doctor!
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (25 February 2008):
 Hi
You are obviously the kind of person everyone turns to when they are in trouble!
But you are probably the kind of person that attracts a turbulent life also. Thats not a critisism by the way!
Sometimes you need to take a step back, even if you are the kind of person that likes to help people, and need to have a bit of breathing space!
Maybe normally, you get a bit of respite between episodes, but you havent recently!
Occasionally its ok to say, i cant cope with anymore right now, i need to recharge my batteries!
C xxxxx
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