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writes:Ive had a relationship before, and ive been dumped before. This time its worse.Basically, ive been going out with him for a while now, and it might just be me but i get used to things, i get attatched and when they leave i cant cope myself. He moved away for university, its only about an hour away by car, and an hour and a half by bus.we tried, but it began that we were uninvoled with each others lives, trying to cram in a text every night with nothing to talk about, and only seeing each other once a week. so he finished it, i understand why. I just feel so crap about it. He promised me wed see each other again when the time is right, but part of me feels its just not going to happen, even although i can already see it. i cant wait for the day, but i dont know if its false hope. im so heartbroken, i honnetly cant imagine being with any one else, he was just right for me. i dont know what to do, or how to feel, i just need some responses that are maybe different from what every person would tell me.
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reader, shania +, writes (27 October 2010):
 If he really loved you he wouldn't of finished with you.Please dont torture yourself,you did all you could.Its best if you move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): relationships are hard enough when you live close to eachother. Don't dwell on this. don't you think you would be much happier with someone who would put you first? And don't you think you would be happier with someone you could talk to without trying. Maybe this is a good thing for the both of you. Long distance relationship usally never work out. but i do hope you two meet again, maybe when the time is right you and him could give it another try. Good luck.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 This relationship was doomed if he was willing to walk away so quickly into going to college. It's best if you can grieve the lost relationship and move on. I know that what you're feeling is very intense, but this guy bailed at the first difficult moment of the relationship. What if there was a major problem?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Everyone has been in your situation where they feel as though life will not be the same again and that they have lost their soulmate, but trust me if this relationship was meant to be forever you would still be together. It's not meant to be so grieve for it and then let it go and move on. I believe all our relationships are tools to teach us what we want in a partner and how we want to be treated. Take your lessons from this relationship on what you liked and didn't like and store it away in your relationship database.
Chin up doll you will be ok I promise
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Ok well first of the distance really is not all that big and if the both of you guys loved each other enough then you would both work hard on the relationship and make the most of the one time a week you see each other, there are people out there in relationships and are hours apart from each other and only get to see each other once every couple of months so i say that you make the most of what you have and dont frown upon what you dont have.
Tell your ex that you want to work hard at the relationship and you dont want to break up as you really want to be with him tell him the distance is ok for now until you can both do something about it. Ask him to take you back and make a plan to work on the relationship.
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