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writes:So my boyfriend and I have been.together five months now. We dated once in the past and he hurt me then and am starting to worry he will again. We both agreed when we got together no lies no secrets be 100% truthful but im starting to worry he's keeping something from me. Is it just stupid insecurities? We both gave eachother our Facebook information, he still has mine but i no longer have his and it kind of upsets me. I know he flirts with other girls and that doesn't really bug me unless he acts upon the flirt and goes to hang out with her without me. Well he for some reason will not allow me his information anymore yet he still has mine. We live in separate cities so its already difficult to see eachother with neither able to drive. I noticed his ex posting something about him the other day and it drove me nuts. So i asked him when was the last time he saw his ex and HER daughter (the child is not his but she refers to him as dad) he told me he has not seen either of them since late November. Skeptical of course but burried my doubts within my mind. Im so afraid hes lying to me and every time i try and talk to him about it he states i do not trust him and Im starting to feel less and less happy in this relationship.. what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2015): Hi
If, a few months ago, you promised each other no lies and no secrets, I presume that meant total transparency in both your dealings on facebook etc and passwords were exchanged for that reason. Why then, is he now going back on this agreement? It sounds as if he must have changed his password and if he has, then he must have a reason for doing so. Your intuitions are right I would imagine, and even, just suppose he isn't flirting etc, he still went back on your agreement and is making you really unhappy. I really don't see this situation or this person, changing. He doesn't care for you. Sorry. Move on as soon as you can.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 April 2015):
 Is it just stupid insecurities, you ask? Is this your previously posted question? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-makes-excuses-to-not-give-me-his.html
If it is, then, um, no, it isn't stupid insecurities. Why are you trying to hold on to a loser? Why?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 April 2015):
Change your Facebook information. Why would you even give it to a boyfriend of only 5 months?
You know he flirts with other girls. You live in separate cities. You are okay with the flirting he does with other girls as long as you go along when then hang out? That makes no sense to me. He's not flirting, he's trying to hook up! Wtf?
He for some reason will not allow you his information.... do you really need this spelled out for you?
This post sounds very similar to the one I answered today. Her boyfriend was on probation and she didn't trust him.
You don't trust him, it's time to let him go.
You can do so much better, why are you trying to salvage this relationship of only a few months? He's not worth it. There are so many guys out there who are honest and respectful and who aren't incarcerated assholes with a lying habit.
WAKE UP!
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