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I'm having sexual feelings for him but I'm not yet ready to have sex. What can I do?

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Question - (27 April 2015) 3 Answers - (Newest, 27 April 2015)
A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm 24plus and my guy is 29plus.

He has been my childhood friend but as of last year he asked me out.

We both love each other and as of this having been having sexual dreams which both of are involved.

Now have been having sexual feeling towards him and i'm not ready to have sex.

What can i do? Advice please, thanks

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (27 April 2015):

Honeypie agony auntIf you are not ready, then you are not ready. AND that is OK! Be honest about it, so he KNOWS where you two stand. And if he can not or will not wait, HE isn't for you.

Sexual dreams doesn't mean you HAVE to have sex or that you are ready, it just means that you PROCESS some of your thoughts and feelings while sleeping. My guess is, you are ATTRACTED to him physically, but again ATTRACTIONS doesn't mean you are ready to have sex.

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A male reader, Garbo United States + , writes (27 April 2015):

Garbo agony auntNever do anything sexual that you are uncomfortable with. If you are not ready for sex then don't do it. You know yourself best so follow what you need and feel.

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A male reader, lawncare United Kingdom +, writes (27 April 2015):

lawncare agony auntIf you're not ready to have sex, then don't have sex.

Be honest and friendly and forthright about your readiness and hopefully the friendship will sustain you until you are ready.

If not, then he isn't the dream ticket you hope for.

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