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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:It so happens that I’m absolutely awful at getting into relationships. This question is not one of the generic “I’m 19 and never had a girlfriend” lamentations. Although I was a late bloomer and upon starting university this year had relatively little experience with females, I emerge without my virginity having enjoyed a number of casual liaisons with females. I know there are a number of users on this forum that will censure me for not waiting until I entered a steady relationship to explore my sexuality but in my defence I try to ‘go with the flow’ and ultimately do not regret my conduct in any way at all, neither do I think it will hinder my chances with future girlfriends – in my experience at very least, fresher’s year has been an alcohol fueled free for all and my experience of it is not unique. I don’t find ‘pulling’ girls that difficult anymore (it used to seem completely insurmountable) but I find the prospect of getting into a relationship extremely challenging. There are girls I like and during the course of the past year I have ‘dated’ casually but advancing a relationship to a level of exclusivity is something I can’t quite get my head around – I am unsure as to when I should tell a girl I like her and the circumstances in which I should do it Any advice would be well appreciated ?
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (14 May 2012):
 good question OP.
That is one that we all try to answer, see the problem is when do you ask a girl if you are exclusive? Its not so much about all the dating relationships are when you decide that you will only date one and other...
Having the talk can be a little diffiuclt but at the same time chances are she is asking herself the same thing!
When you feel that you are ready to commit to the girl simply ask her if you are in an exclusive arrangement or not... that will give you a pretty good indicator as to where you are.
Best of luck
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