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writes:My bf and I are sophomores in college and attend schools that are only ten miles apart. We don't get to stay together that often because we are both in very demanding programs and have tons of work. Recently my bf got sick with a sinus infection and had a very high temp causing him to miss two days of class. I went over in the two hours I had free and brought him bagels, soup, nyquil and gave him a backrub. He was disappointed that I couldn't sleep over, but I had an exam and presentation the next morning which he understood. Now it's the weekend and I have had plans to go with my girlfriends for some water sports and then to one of their homes to sleep over and go to the local carnival. I have been so looking forward to this. My bf tells me to go (he was supposed to come to, but is not feeling well enough), but I feel really guilty leaving him behind ....and sick. His friends will be around, but I still feel bad about it. I also really need to get away for a day. Please tell me what you think about this. Reply to this Question |
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reader, TasteofIndia + ♥, writes (7 September 2007):
 Oh, your boyfriend isn't dying or anything. So he's a little sick. It sounds like you've been more than wonderful already to him - backrubs, soup, medicine...
Before you go, stop by and bring him a pile of movies and some medicine for him to pass the time with. While you're out, pick him up a little souvenir. I think you should go out and take that little slice of "me" time. You sound like a wonderful girlfriend!
xxIndia
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reader, Trinny  +, writes (7 September 2007):
 I say to you, go on this weekend and enjoy yourself because that is what your boyfriend will want you to do. Give him your love and say that you will miss him and will phone him all the time. Then keep to that promise and when you come back he should be hopeful better and you can tell him that it was not much fun because he was not there and maybe you and him can go away for the weekend together to make up for him missing out on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Goodness, just GO and enjoy the weekend! What you could do is to phone him once each day and ask how he's doing and say that you are thinking of him........take some photos to share with him when you get back, and a small gift from the carnival.That will sweeten it a little . After all, he knows he is ill and can't go - nor would he be in any shape to enjoy it if he did.
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reader, Midge + ♥, writes (7 September 2007):
 Although he is sick, and you feel bad about leaving him behind, he will be fine. I dont think that he will feel badly about you wanting to have a little me time. Besides, perhaps when you get back, he will be well and then you can spend some quality "us" time together.
As you say, he has his friends there if he needs anything.
Go and enjoy yourself for the short time you are away. Perhaps call him each day to check on him. But enjoy the weekend, he will be fine, and perhaps you can make it up to him when he is well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): please don't leave him, cos I think he needs you now than ever
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): If it were the other way around, he wouldnt hesitate to leave you. men are selfish. be the same. hes not your child.. go
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): It sounds as if you could benefit from having a break, and it's an arrangement that has already been made. Your b/f id not terminally ill, it might be a good break for him to have an all male time too!!We teach people how to treat us, so why not show that you can both give each other freedom, even at this early stage in your friendship.Nothing wrong with going, but it's your choice.
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