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I'm getting more and more anxious about sex

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Question - (25 April 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 25 April 2010)
A female New Zealand age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey, I have been having sex with my boyfriend for about 10 months. We both haven't had any other sexual partners. When we try to have sex it still is very hard for him to get in, even if I am aroused and lubricated I still am tight, and there is one area around the opening of the vagina that hurts when only a little bit of pressure is on it.

I want to be more fun and happy when it comes to sex, but it seems to take so much preperation and most of the time I don't enjoy it because it is so hard to start and then it hurts. Positions other than military seem to be even harder to do. I don't know what to do, and I'm getting more and more anxious about sex, which again makes it more difficult. Is there anything me or my boyfriend can do to help this?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2010):

This is the one who wrote the question, thanks for that!! I knew it was missionary too.. don't know why I wrote military.

Also want to note that I'm on the pill which I think is messing with me a bit

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (25 April 2010):

person12345 agony auntI would advise going to see your gyno. He/she can tell you if something is wrong physically. It's probably also not helping that you go into it with a negative/anxious attitude. You think it will hurt, so you stay tense. Try buying lube rather than relying solely on your own. Some women simply don't get wet enough for sex to feel good. Also, just an fyi the position is called missionary, not military.

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