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writes:well, I'm so confused and the issue itself has been causing me a depression since it happened that I thought of committing suicide just to escape the scandal. I'm 23 years old and due to circumstances I was pushed into a relationship and I lost my virginity. Not virgin is rejected in our country and religion. Now I'm getting married and I don't know what to do. I definitely can't tell my fiance. Will he know I'm not a virgin? What can i do? Please advise. I'm really so afraid.
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reader, hotstuff  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 I don't think he will really be able to know unless you tell him. You should be able to talk to him though because it is not good to keep secrets especially from someone you are about to spen (hopefully) the rest of your life with. If you want to I would talk to him, but you don't have to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all those who answered.. Regarding if there is someone i can trust, there is no one. I can.'t.. It'd be a disaster.. Pls tell me.. What can i do? Will he know if i kept it a secret..
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reader, pinkpeone  +, writes (12 August 2007):
Hey! Suicide is not an option! You don't need to tell anyone you are not a virgin! Do you remember the things you did/the way you felt when you lost your virginity? Just act like that!There are no rules or procedures that you must follow to show that you are a virgin.Just let it be your little secret.Private message me if you'd like!Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u 4the reply but it's the fact that i can't go on. I'm so terrified. Really it's forbidden in our country. I don't know what to do.if i opened my mouth, it'll be a disaster. I don't know. If i kept silent, will he know? Pls advice.
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (11 August 2007):
 Hi DearI feel very sorry for you! But because I don't know the culture in your country, your religion and so, it is very hard to give you any advice. So do you have anyone you can really trust? Your mother, a sister, a cousin, your grandma, a friend or anyone? If so, try to talk to this person, tell her what you feel and ask for help. You should really talk to someone and be honest.I wish you good luck and all the best!love, Enzian
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (11 August 2007):
 Suicide is not an option, under any circumstances.
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