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writes:hi... need some advice, im married 4 almost 7 years with 1 kid. since i got married me and my husband were staying together, we work on the same company,..lately, i was so bored with our relationship..our daily activities were only house-office-house-office..there are times when i go out with my friends (his friends too) but he dont want to be with us, he likes better staying at home or in his family (neighbor)..we seldom talk at home, he is always fun infront of tv..we dont do sex (i certainly say that we had a problem on sex, i dont ussually get the "good feeling" when we do it,..im always 'dry' .)..when time like this i know he was annoyed, but he do understand me so he had to stop...untill i noticed its barely 3 months we dont do it..for me its okay, but i dont know if he really wanted to or not, i dont want to ask him.. if he insist then why not' ....is our love fading?... do we both bored to each other, he seldom talk to me,, me too. we always got tired when were at home.. but i still love him as my husband, i still care...but why is it he's acting like im not existed.. do i have to make a move first? i dont know what should i do first...im just waiting he would open up...im worried i could be attracted to others (just like at the moment i have this guy who is really kind, and doing happy things for me, making me cheer up,.. but i dont wanna fall to him coz hes a married one too. but sometimes i wuld think i could fall to him..please help me. give me some light.) thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 Hi,
It sounds like you and your husband are not communicating very well with each other any more.
Why not try and plan some activities that both of you can do together, if he is reluctant then perhaps suggest something you know he will be interested in.
Even a trip to the movies can be a romantic experience, you walk there together , have a coffee beforehand ,a nice walk home etc.
I guess what I'm trying to say is you need to spend some time together outside of the environment which is leading to all your problems. Its worth trying to build up your relationship together, but you need to start communicating and sharing your thoughts and concerns. Hopefully the rest will follow.
Good luck!!
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (19 October 2007):
You need to plan some interesting to do together. Tell him there all set up so he must go with you. The change of pace might relight his fire.
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