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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have no confidence with my self. I had a girlfriend for years. Went i turned 16 i started to let my ture feelings show. I came out to my friends and sister also my girlfriend and now my dad and family.I am now 19 and have not had a relationship for two and a half years. I like someone who i know liked me in the summer but i would not show this to him. He thinks i have a issue with being gay but i don't i would love to have a relationship. Now he is at uni in a new city and i really need help. How do i get the confidence to talk or even start to show that i like someone?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): In my opinion start showing that you like
him as a freind and give complements
on his personalty. Show a strong interest of
being friends with him so you get to know him
better. If he is attracted to you, he might get
a bit nervous and could slightly reject you
because he could be shy but don't give up.
(remember unfortunitly many gay people never admit
to themselves that they are gay because they are so
deeply internelised by societies hatred towards
them.) If he is really attracted to you and falls
in love with you, you will proberly notice it by
observing his body language and listening to his intonations. At that point show some effection
towards him but make sure that you can make it look
like a misunderstanding if he tries to betray your
trust. Good luck!.
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reader, aim  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 I believe it's the same with issues with being straight. You just kinda have to be sure that he IS gay. I mean, you can't ask him out on a date then find out he was straight and not gay. Confidence can be boosted just by knowing that there is nothing wrong with being gay and you are not alone on being gay. No big deal. :) Keep it real brotha!
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Ok for the guy who likes you you could try getting some contact with him via phone or internet. You could write him a letter and reassure him you have no issues with your sexuality adn inform him you are why and not very confident.
As for the showing you liek someone start off small. Your in the Uk but is there a gay village' local to you. In Manchester there is one and its a very good place to socialise and meet new people...
Try flirting, yet not making it obvious adn when someoen picks up the message use your instincts to go from there x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): You could maybe go to a gay chatroom, google them and I'm sure you'll find lots of answers on there. That way you can be sure that you don't hit on a straight guy, and scare them off a little bit. Tell yourself that there's nothing wrong with being gay, and that you're proud, and that you're attractive - basically it's just getting yourself into the right frame of mind :] confidence-wise, it's nothing different to being straight. It's just being sure about the guy you like. Good luck :]
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