I'm gay and I really like a guy at school. How do I get to know him better without outing myself?

A male age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hi, well where do I begin with this. I am Gay and I've known since I was thirteen (15 now) and I'm not out. I've always been a little feminine but not so much that i'd personally say it was obvious i was gay but i feel my whole school year knows even some people who look at me do a gay hand gesture at me and I feel is the way I look/speak or is it. I've had a long history of bullying but I moved school when i was 12 and in my new school i was a bit shy to start and this has been my reputation until now when i'm starting to be confident but they still feel im weak and make these remarks at me about my sexuality and it really knocks this my confidence and i start to crawl back in my shell. Besides all this I have other concerns. I really fancy this guy in geography i think he likes me too. Why? Well, because we have these sort of flirtatious conversations and he's always grinning at me and i cant help but to smile back and we share a deep eye contact that just leads me on further but this guy seems straight to me because hes straight in all ways possible except i never hear him talk about girls like everyone else. I really like him, but i don't want to out myself by jumping in to it. I know for a fact that my school is paticularily mean to gay people.

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