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I'm finding it hard to let myself go sexually...I am so shy.

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Question - (31 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 July 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I need some advice as I feel I am not normal, I have never felt attracted to anyone until now, I am with this amazing guy and we have been together for a long time and he has said he loves me and I love him in every way, he knows everythng about me and I feel really comfortable with him but and he knows I have never been with a guy sexually before and he is ok with that. I need advice as although I love everything about him, I just cant let myself go enough to be with him sexually, and it's starting to annoy me, it's a little bit of fear and embarrassment, we have kissed and I have given him a hand job but I just cant seem to get past this, has anyone else had this, I feel I am being stupid, I mean most woman my age are married, had loads of boyfriends and know what they are doing, you could say I have lead a very sheltered life, he is great and says it turns him on that I am shy but I just don't know what to do. Any advice very welcome.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntYou sound like a nice girl that hasn't seen much of the world. The world can be very ugly and it can be very beautiful. Sex should be beautiful. If you read up on it you'll educate yourself then when the 'time" comes make sure you're with a man that cares for you and demonstrates respect and is gentle wit you . Then and nly then will you experience the wonders and beauty of intercourse with a man. Relax, life happens in stages. Just prepare yourself for it as best you can then relax. Things can be wonderous or they can be ugly it's kind of up to you and how you see it.

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A female reader, Dr.Ski United Kingdom +, writes (31 July 2010):

So, your shy about your body? well think in your head, that you have to have sex with someone at some point... so if he is the one you love then why not make it a special time for you! for the both of you!

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