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writes:I've been sexting with this guy for a little less than 2 months. It's not only sexting because we talk about our day and other stuff non-sex related on a daily basis. Lately,(and not because of anything he's done), I'm worrying about the pictures I've sent. I know I shouldn't have sent them in the first place but the novelty and the excitement of the situation got the better of me. I've cut my head off in all pics and I am discreet as possible in the situation... but I'm thinking that maybe I shouldn't send any more pictures of myself in my undies to a virtual stranger. The problem is that I don't know how to stop and I don't know how to tell him that I want to keep talking with him,(dirty and innocently), just not sending him pictures.Not sure if it's relevant but we have a babygirl /DaddyDom relationship and he lives in a different state. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2014): Just cut it off and find someone who doesn't ask you to send nude pics to them. Your face isn't visible so he can't do anything with them to publicize them etc. End of story. Next time meet someone in person and stop the online nonsense with sexting/nude pics etc.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (27 September 2014):
You could actually make this far more complicated than it needs to be, by trying to think how you will explain it to him. The truth is, it’s your body, and all the risk is yours. It amazes me people continue to send such images with so many horror stories of so-called “revenge porn” being brought to our attention, by which I mean publishing the photos on the internet and sharing them via social media. And I’m afraid if that happens to you, there’s not very much you can do about it.
. It’s absolutely daft and, if you weren’t wishing to stop anyway, I’d tell you that my advice is that you should. Just tell him what things you like about your communication i.e. the things you talk about, but that sending pictures isn’t one of them and you don’t want to do it anymore. That’s really the end of the conversation, because if he’s not fine with that, he’s not able to accept your boundaries, and that’s the kind of red flag that should make you run for the hills in the opposite direction. So don’t overthink this, if you don’t like it, don’t do it. Please wise up to the risk you are taking and your vulnerability here.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 September 2014):
 I suggest that you submerge your cell phone in a bowl of chocolate milk. I did that with mine - a while ago (by accident!) - and the darn thing never worked AGAIN after that......
Meanwhile, ask yourself this: "WHAT the heck was I THINKING????....."
Those two details should help put things right for you...
Good luck...
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 September 2014):
 Well, if you already sent some there is no getting those back. They are now HIS to do with whatever he pleases.
Considering that, WHY not tell him the truth. We are VIRTUAL strangers and I would LIKE to continue our chats but I don't want to send any more pictures. What can he say? Other then OK or no, it's NOT OK? If he says it's NOT Ok then it's up to you whether you want to KEEP talking to him or not.
YOU REALLY NEED to stand up for yourself. ONLY you can draw the line at what you WANT and are comfortable with. NO ONE else can do that FOR you.
If you can't do that, do you really think this "sexting" a stranger is something you should be doing?
Now he may be the DOM in your "fantasy game" but that doesn't mean you can't CHOOSE what you want and don't want to do. You don't OWE him squat. YOU do however, OWE to respect yourself.
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