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writes: I'm falling for my friend, who happens to be my ex's..ex best friend (They grew apart for reasons not involving me) I'm feeling like a bad person, because If I look at things from his prospective, I would be, no matter how over him I am, upset if someone liked one of my friends. Is it wrong for us to be in a relationship because of this, I know it bothers my friend because I loved his best friend first, but I've moved past that. Will this ever work out, and should it be allowed? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): Feelings are something no one can really control, so dont feel bad for what you feel. Its not your fault, and people should understand that. How you ACT on those feelings is what makes or breaks the system. Best friends can sometimes grow apart. That happens. It hurts pretty bad, but it happens. But if your ex really wants you to be happy, he'll suck down his pride to let you pursue what you want to pursue. And if you feel like you want to pursue your friend, dont let the past stop you. Just talk to your ex first. Make him aware of the whole situation. Get his thoughts, see how he feels. Dont do something rash and expect everybody to just deal...theres probably alot of hurt floating around in this triangle and its the sensitive thing to avoid poking at it. The right thing, the moral thing...not always so clear cut. My advice to you...feelings can be deceptive. Go with what your heart tells you, but dont cut your head out of the deal. Think about what you're doing before you do anything. Whatever you decide, both guys will support it, Im sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): I think it's allowed, and it could work out. Just talk to your ex about it and see if he's okay with it. If he is totally against it, you have to think about what you want more - your ex as a friend, or your friend as a boyfriend.
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