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writes:hi i am dating a mixed race girl at moment but we do love each other and take time in our relationshipbut problem is i bit worry bout how my family gonna react when i tell them bout her even my family not keen on mixed race people but i sure my mum dont mean saying , dnt bring her to her house thx pls help Reply to this Question |
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Don't try. They'll have to come to it on their own. But you need to have your girl's back, and make sure they treat her well. Treat it as a non issue unless/until your parents make it one, then side with your gf. Eventually it will become a non-issue on it's own. If it doesn't, there's nothing you could have done to change that.
All I can say is no matter what happens you need to protect your girl from your family's problem. Good luck.
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reader, Sweet-thing + ♥, writes (8 November 2007):
 These are the challenges all couples face when they date outside their faith, race, or financial system. It doesn't mean it can't happen. It doesn't mean they won't eventually change their minds about her. But it does mean that it's going to tear at the fiber of your union and cause stress on both of you. You can't disown your family, neither should they disown you over something like this but you may have to be firm with them and not allow them to treat her with disrespect. Once they see you behaving like a man, they may back off and realize that you're happy and it doesn't matter what race she came from. I am currently seeing a wonderful Asian man and I am facing similar things with my own family, much to my horror! The main thing is, you are building a life with this person, not their family. The family is in the background and hopefully will be able to get through holiday functions with minimal drama. Good luck!
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