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writes:I am in love with two women,the first one we hav dated for 1year 6months and the other one just for 4months,bt am scared the first woman can find out...what should i do help?!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 January 2016):
 I hope they both find out that you are two timing them as you do not deserve either of them. In a relationship you should be honest. How would you feel if they where both keeping another man from you? Why do you think that it is okay to treat these women like this? You will end up hurting them, and that is just not a nice trait to have.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (21 January 2016):
 Dude the simplest thing to do is tell both of them and get them to understand that you are madly attracted to both of them, and that they should just learn to get along already.
You are risking the health of yourself as well as the two ladies with this immature shenanigans. When I begin dating I always let the lady know whether I'm with another or more or exclusive giving her the freedom to choose. Some stayed while others left but it cut off a lot of the drama and BS.
As everyone has mentioned here, if you don't have the balls to be honest with both of them, let one go. Dump her! And choose the one you like best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2016): What should you do?
Get caught and be dumped by both of them!
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reader, BE125  +, writes (21 January 2016):
You have to be honest with yourself and the women involved. Right now you're in an unsustainable situation, and there should only be one woman in your life. A situation like the one you are in is a serious moral hazard as well as one that never ends well. The fact you are afraid tells me that you realize there is something wrong here and it seems to me the answer is simple, you have to figure out which person you love and which person is a relationship just based on infatuation or something else, but you have to be honest, otherwise I fear you will lose everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2016): You cant have your cake and eat it. All this is going to end in is two women dumping you. Decide who you want and stick to them. Or better yet, walk away from them both. You clearly cant commit and both of them deserve better
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2016): Break up with one of them? That's literally the smartest thing you can do. Also keeps your morals aligned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2016): Here is how your story ends.
Your first girlfriend WILL not CAN find out. WILL.
It's just a matter of time.
And WHEN she does, you are going to lose her forever. Be prepared for this.
Is the second girlfriend worth losing the first one over? If NOT, then you still have a chance to redeem yourself. Dump the second one. Only four months with her? It should be easy.
Then focus on your one and only.
Think long and hard about this. If you keep trying to get away with it, the more likely you are to make a mistake and get caught. You are gambling and risking one hell of a lot. And I suspect you are going to realize what you lost when it's too late.
This is not going to end well.
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