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I'm confused, he says he wants to be with me but is dating someone else again!?

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Question - (4 April 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 4 April 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

3 months ago i split up with my boyfriend, 2 weeks after he got together with this girl and are still going out with each other. his cheated on her twice with me. last week at my birthday he told me he still loved me and that i was beautiful. he split up with his girlfriend that night. he said he wanted to be with me and now is going back out with this girl. he told all his friends that he still has feelings for me. can someone tell me whats going on?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007):

Yes i think i can x he knows he has got both of you wrapped round his little finger ! and its only you or the other girl to put this right. You should either no matter how hard this is tell the girl what has happened no matter how hard it is xxx and leave him no matter how much love you have for him proove to him your not his second best no more ! xxxxxx

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (4 April 2007):

kenny agony auntI don't think this guy knows what he wants, i think he wants his cake and eat it. He went with you twice while he was still in a relationship with another woman. What does this tell you about him. And if you were to get back with him how do you know he woulden't go behind your back like this.

I think you should move on and find a guy who gives you the respect and love you deserve.

Good luck x

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (4 April 2007):

DrPsych agony auntI can tell you what is going on...the man is a player and a total mess. He isn't boyfriend material for you. He cheated with you while dating someone else. You shouldn't have let it happen as it comes down to self-respect. It also means he would cheat on you with another girl if you pair did become a couple. You broke up the first time and you should just walk away from this guy. Why should you feed his ego by paying him attention and hanging on his every word? Stop being passive about this - you say he cheated on his GF with you as if you had nothing to do with that. I don't mean to be harsh but have a good long look in the mirror and ask yourself if an attractive young lady such as yourself deserves such shoddy treatment. Plenty of guys out there who will treat you better.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007):

He is simply having his cake and eating it because you are letting him get away with it. It's up to you to make an ultimatum not sleep with him if he is still seeing the other girl. He will have no respect for you if you sleep with him while you know he is seeing her also. Be strong on this one because no girl wants to be used and feel second best. I would try and find someone else who wants you and only you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007):

He seems that he wants the best of both worlds. But the problem with that is that it's hurting you and is going to hurt his girlfriend if she finds out. So get out of this. If he really wanted you he wouldn't be with his girlfriend. Find a guy who is single.

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