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writes:Why does he always tell me about his roommates cheating girlfriend? I dated this fellow in his 30's for 9 months, and during that time he has not been fully commited to me, and I am always on the fence about him because of that and some other issues. He has had recent financial difficulties and has a four year old daughter from a previous relationship...I am quite a bit older than he is and baggage free....I would love to be exclusive with him, but it just doesn't seem to happen with us.He lives with a much younger fellow who has a steady girlfriend who is very cute and she thrives on male attention. My fellow is always telling me how he thinks his roommate should dump this girl...that she is always cheating on him. And he says that this girl takes advantage because she knows he will always take her back no matter what man comes between them.Do you think he is trying to tell me something about the two of us? He hasn't dated anyone else recently, but he always tells me he wants to stay single and keep his options open, yet he calls me several times a day, we see a lot of each other, but recently we had a falling out that split us up for a month. We have been sort of back together only for a couple of weeks and he won't have sex with me.....imagine, a guy not wanting to have sex! He is so confusing because I feel like he could almost be talking about our relationship when he speaks of this girl and his roommate, but he doesn't see himself in her or relate it to our relationship.....is he just playing dumb, hinting that he wants me to ask for a commitment and for him to stop trying to stay single? Is he telling me not to take him back no matter what girl comes between us because he doesn't want me, or what? It just seems that sometimes when someone talks about another couple they are really trying to talk about themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Hi Hunny
I think you need to ask him what he really wants from you, And to stop babbling on about his mates much younger girl and consentrate on the problem in hand i.e your relationship whatever he may think that is! If this guy he is living with is happy to be with this girl no matter what then why is he so obsessed with it all...His mate may get angry from time to time and talk to him about it to vent, But instead of letting it go he is keeping his friends issues with him and its making him angry, WHY!!!!! The only thing I can think of hunny is past experiences with women his ex and stuff like this was she unfaithfull to him as this maybe why he canot move on, And why it angers him so much, He may feel insecure in a relationship to commit so therefor you will never get a straight answer. Thats why he wants to keep his opptions open, Other than that does he secretly like his mates girl? One way or another hunny Id need to no were I stood, He is in his thirtys with a child so if he cant make his mind up and your always going to be there then he really has nothing to worry about...Ask him What he wants from you and get it all out in the open and if he is still unsure then hunny I think I would either slow it down and keep my opptions open or just move on..I do hope you find happiness hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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