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I'm confused! Am I a lesbian?

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Question - (14 June 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 15 June 2010)
A female Australia age 26-29, anonymous writes:

hi. i think im a lesbian because i keep dreaming and thinking about the same sex, but im really confused can you help me.

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (15 June 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntha i dream about the same sex all the time. i consider myself straight, i like men in my waking life

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A female reader, src5404 United States +, writes (14 June 2010):

src5404 agony auntA lot of women find other women attractive. Quite frankly I thing the female body is just more beautiful than a males, but that doesn't make me a lesbian. Having fantasies about things is normal. Wait and see how you feel in another five years then decides. You are too young to be worrying about it. Plus you don't need to worry about, you will following the path that you feel is right.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (14 June 2010):

YouWish agony auntHey there! I wouldn't worry one bit about labels! You're young, and your hormones and tastes are not set in stone. Even if you were older, people find that they have different desires over time.

The big thing is to not worry about how you feel towards the same sex or the opposite sex. If you keep dreaming and thinking about girls, enjoy it! If you're finding that you are attracted to someone of the same sex and she's feeling the same, go ahead and explore it! If you had an entire relationship with a girl, and then in the future if you're single, you're attracted to a guy, that's perfectly okay too!

The only person who can say that you're a lesbian is you, and if it turns out that you are, that's great! If you decide in the future that you're bisexual, that's just as good! If you decide later that you're straight, you'll know it! Of course, you can decide that labels are stupid, and you'd be fine too! :)

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (14 June 2010):

raiders agony auntDo you find boys attractive? Don't label yourself right now your still young and might find the female body attractive, this does not make you gay.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010):

Why do you feel you need help? If you had a dream where you felt an attraction to a member of the opposite sex would you still be asking for help? If you are a lesbian, then SO WHAT? We live in an enlightened society today where being gay is not such taboo anymore. People idolize entertainers and most of them are gay. What's the big deal?

I have had dreams before where I could fly, but when I wake up I cannot fly. Your dreams are only dreams.

If you find yourself looking at nude pictures of pretty girls and feeling tingly then there is a good chance you are a lesbian. Again, so what?

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