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I'm confused about my sexuality

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Question - (2 February 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 5 February 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:


I find myself attracted to girls all the time, and obsessed with lesbian porn. But I also enjoy gay porn, and have had gay experiences, but I never look at a guy and think, hmm he's hot. What does this make me?

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A male reader, AllTimeHoe United Kingdom +, writes (5 February 2012):

This makes you unsure. You experiment with those things to gauge whether or not you like them or not. The fact you don't find men 'hot' is probably a good indication that you aren't homosexual.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012):

Well, first and foremost.

I'm a gay, I have a boyfriend.

Just because you like gay porn doesn't mean your gay hun.

The gay experiences depend

Did you like them?

Do you ever feel like you want another guy to get closer to you physically?

Do you get even the slightest bit hard over another guy you know in person?

Do you feel a little lightheaded, or have a little fluttering feeling in your stomach when one of your friends is close to you (legs touching etc.)

Do you imagine someone you know touching you sexually?

You need to think about this, you may be bisexual

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012):

Like the spammer box on here your 'human' mate, it's perfectly normal to enjoy gay porn, it doesn't make you gay... But at the end of the day does it really matter, because there is no real black and white with sexuality as 'Eri sunshine' has also said. There's a lot of gray. At the end of the day you just need to be comfortable with who you are and what you enjoy. Life is too short to care what other people might think. Also don't think that what turns you on with porn is what is going to turn you on when looking for a relationship because the two are soooooooo far removed from each other, if life was like porn we would all have jobs that required us to take our clothes off at every conceivable moment, all the guys would have 12" members and all the ladies would have fake balloon breasts and everyone would be made of silicone and plastic. Annnnyway I digress, in short, you're perfectly normal. Don't worry about it pally.

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A female reader, eri_sunshine Canada +, writes (2 February 2012):

It's actually very common for guys to enjoy gay porn, or girls to enjoy lesbian porn. Human beings are sexual by nature- its just who we are! I wouldn't say that you're bisexual- bisexual means that you would want a relationship with either a guy or a girl, not just the sexual attraction. But nobody is 100% straight, either- NOBODY is ONLY attracted to one gender with a complete aversion to the other gender. We all find things about the same gender nice or hot or even sexy. So I would say that you are straight, maybe open minded and a little bicurious! But it's all normal :)

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