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writes:Help! My Mum is disabled due to a brain tumour, she is unable to look after herself properly. I would visit everyday to make sure she is okay also take her to any appoinments etc. She lives with my sister and her family. My sister fell out with me January this year, over my wedding plans. I am no longer allowed in or near the house (half owned by Mum). Mum has a mobile which I try to contact her on, but she cant always answer it. I then call the house phone, if they answer I just ask for the phone to be passed to Mum. This weekend they barred all my numbers so I cant get in touch with Mum. I have no idea how - but every number I try to use they bar. I really have to do something about this, but I dont know what. I am concerned for my mothers safety and well being.
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reader, blacktink +, writes (26 August 2008):
blacktink is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow to all of you who answered, I didnt know if this would help and it looks like it just might! I dont have a go between, only my brother but he can be as hard work as my sister. I dont feel strong enough yet to just walk into mums house, for one I doubt they will answer the door unless mum is able to get to it also I know for a fact my sister will use physical force to remove me. My wedding is in three weeks time so what I have been thinking is that get that out of the way first as I think she will be spiteful an try to do something to spoil my day. Once I am back from honey moon then I might be able to put up a fight. I do really need to look into the legal side of things, its something that I dont fully understand but willing to try! I really appreciate everyones advice.
Kindest regards to you all.
xxxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 August 2008):
I agree with Tellulah, Social Services will be able to help. Tell them why you fear for her safety and if you think your sister is keeping her captive so to speak.
Is there no one else in your family that could act as a go between?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (26 August 2008):
 Hi Honey,
Get in touch with Social services, and explain you are worried. Your sister is behaving terrible, and has no right to keep your mum away from you.
The social services will ask your mum what she wants to do, and then you could go from there. If the social services cant help, go to the citizens advice and they will be able to put you onto someone that will give you some advice. If all else fails involve the police.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Legally, this cannot be allowed.
You have EVERY right to access your mother. I would just walk up to your sister's house UNANNOUNCED, no calls, no telling mutual friends. Just pop over one day.
Knock on the door and enter when it is opened, don't let them close. Walk straight in.
Tell them, and don't dilly daddle with this, that if they try to stop you seeing her any longer you will go to court and have a judge ORDER them to let you see your own mother.
Hopefully this will tell them you are deadly serious. In fact get a solicitor to have it all down in writing so you can give them his/her number and they can check the legitness of it all.
With any luck they will be scared into thinking you will actually go through with it. But make sure they understand that you WILL.
Flynn 24
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