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writes:I keep having these re-occuring dreams about men. Either they're these cute little dreams.of us together or it sexual. It's always about someone who I've either found attractive at one point, or have liked, and all these men in some way I still have contact with. I've been with my boyfriend a little over a year now. I don't understand why these dreams happen. The worse part is, I enjoy them. Am I a completely horrible person for this? What's going on with this stuff? It's all so confusing. Reply to this Question
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (2 May 2013):
We humans are not programmed to have sex with a single person. That's something that comes with society, and moral rules. In your dreams you express your real desire to have sex with these guys.
As you live in a monogamic society, everything is ok as long as you don't get those dreams to the real plane.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2013): I am in a committed relationship with my present boyfriend of almost three years. I have had a few dreams in past relationships and that is because something wasn't going the way it should in my relationship at the time. You may be committed to your boyfriend but there could be something not right in the bedroom and intimacy issues. If not then don't pay any attention to it. If it really bothers you go and see a psychologist who may be able to help you.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (1 May 2013):
 So you have dream guilt. At least that's what I call it. there are many theories about dreams. Some say that dreams are your subconscious mind trying to communicate with you, or work out a problem in your life. Some say dreams are just random neural activity in your brain. There is a lot of evidence that you can guide your dreams. All of these are probably true. One thing is for certain, if you are not actively trying to guide your dreams then you are not responsible for what happens in them.
If you have dreams that tend to linger in your mind strongly, or if they are repeated often Then you might want to keep a dream diary, and look up the symbols in a dream dictionary. Although sexual dreams have a common theme, for me they are not repeated, and are usually a result of sexual tension in my day life. Just my subconscious acting out because my conscious is restrained by my better moral judgement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2013): If these dreams are confusing you - and if you are enjoying them, it means there are unresolved feelings. You have a choice when you wake up - on whether to act on these feelings, or repress them. You are still quite young - but one day you will need to grow up and mature (I don't mean this in a mean/bad way) - but if you have committed to your current boyfriend (and if you do see yourself being with him for the rest of your life) you need to cut these other guys out of your life completely as you don't need them. If you truly don't love your boyfriend - then it's time to let him go, and start exploring what life and love has to offer...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 May 2013):
 No, you're NOT a horrible person.....
Good luck....
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