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I'm being bullied at school, what can I do? Help!

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Question - (14 December 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 13 January 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, *ezzler writes:

I'm really scared of going to school at the moment because im being bullied. Facebook people are calling me things and telling me there's a gang after me. I havent been going to school lately, i will just walk out the door and hide in the wood or something until the school day is over. It all started when people found out i was gay. I dont want to tell my mum and dad im being bullied because then they'll find out im gay and if i tell a teacher they wont do anything because my school is rubish.

Can someone help because i got to face them sooner or later and im thinking of going in before term ends.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010):

im gay to and at school its one of the worst things ever every single day i will get called names because im gay im 14 now and i dont want tell my friends or family because im scared what they will think and do but i think they have a idea tho because i love having fun and like dancing and singing in room but my mum just doesnt tell me i think lol i think you will have face school soon because your parants could get in trouble and i know this because i skipped school loads because of bullying but you know what i thought no one can stop me from being who i want to be so dont let them get to you because if you do they will do it allot more just be yourself and if your friends were true friends they would stay close to you and not laugh or talk behind your back like mine has or what you could do is make new friends who doesnt care if your gay if your mates dont accept you anywaiizz hope i helped love ste xxxx;)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009):

Block people who are bullying you on Facebook.

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A male reader, Boonridge McPhalify United Kingdom +, writes (19 December 2009):

Boonridge McPhalify agony auntyou need to let your parents know you are being bullied, i wouldn't say what for, let them know that it is affecting your schoolwork and that you cant concentrate. get them to complain to the teachers that you are missing school because of distractions caused by disruptive pupils.

as for facebook-just start randomly adding people and talking to them and ignore facebook bullying. if people say stuff to you you dont have to belive it.

as for if things get too bad- relax you can always go to another school and make new friends. just let things blow over and go in and if an incident occurs shrug it off unless it is seriously violent then just get police involved.

things dye down after a while and the novelty wears off. it just that your age group are going through puberty so sex and what is right and wrong (in their eye's) become a major focus. this will not last past a year or two. go in to school and try to sus who is not being different with you and hang out with them...

good luck!!!

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A female reader, Carrot2000 United States +, writes (15 December 2009):

Carrot2000 agony auntNo one can help you if you don't tell them what's happening: is there another school administrator besides your teacher that you can go to? Is there a way you can tell your parents about the bullying without mentioning that you are gay? Hopefully they won't ask you why you are being bullied, because it's not important. What is important is that you don't feel safe going to school.

I don't know if transferring to another school is an option,but maybe your parents can check into it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009):

Okay, I understand you are in a very difficult situation. However, you must understand that missing out on your education is the worst thing you could do. Although it is difficult, I think this is a time in which you should come out and speak to your parents. If you do not want to speak to your parents, it is time you go to the office in your school and speak to the principal. By not going to school it is only a matter of time before your parents find out that you are absent, so it is time you tackle this head on. If you speak to those in charge at school, they have a responsibility to act. Should they fail to act, the entire school district, as well as those who failed to act, will face legal penalties. So, in summary, I suggest this:

1. Speak to the school administration

2. If the school does nothing, file a police report and then speak to the school again.

3. If that doesn't work, speak to your county attorney (or whoever handles public crimes there) and have charges pressed. Discrimination, especially against minority classes, generally have very severe penalties.

4. Lastly, in addition to having criminal charges pressed, if you have endured a great deal, you could likely have substantial civil charges pressed. Many years ago something very similar happened to a homosexual in my area and he ended up being awarded nearly one million dollars against the school district.

Just remember, you education is a valuable tool, it should not be sacrificed. Further, you should take all the steps you can to block these evil-minded individual from your facebook or other social networking pages. These networking sites have privacy options, use them.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009):

You need to tell someone immediately. Being gay is nothing to be ashamed of, I think you should ring childline, they will help you through this, they are kind people.

Bullying shouldn't be tolerated. You deserve better.

Remember that there are many people out there that want to help you, many people. I swear I get so angry at bullies sometimes but violence isn't the answer. Tell a trusted adult and/or tell your friends.

Hope it all goes well, you will be ok.

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