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writes:Long question alert.....So basically I've always thought I was straight until I started getting close with one of my friends; I need to lay out the whole story so bear with me...-I'm from and attend university in Brighton, the most liberal city in the UK, so me nor my friends have never really had any problems with openly gay guys.-I have this gay friend Theo, and everyone I know says how unbelievably beautiful, outgoing and cute he is etc. He's probably one of the most popular guys I know.* I've known Theo for almost a year, pretty much as acquaintances til December last year, when we were both at the same club and ended up snogging and talking most of the night (note, kissing boys isn't a weird thing for me, I've kissed most of my guy mates, just maybe not to that level).* From January onwards we got closer and closer as mates, and one night loads of us were out together and I ended up getting with Theo loads and going back to his, we kissed a lot and then I spooned him and I ended up getting hard and he tossed me off...lol*After this is wasn't awkward, but our friendship became a bit more intimate. He'd get really mad if I was getting with girls etc and have big drunken goes at me. So I subconsciously thought it's best I try and avoid going back to his again, so not to lead him on.*About a month ago we were all at some party and on a bit of coke, and I decided to tell my best friend Carlos what had happened between me and Theo (he knew we snogged a lot, but not that I slept in his bed etc); he was fine and said I should've told him sooner, and said 'dont worry I know you're still straight' which was cool.*Last week was the end of Spring term and we were all at this big party, and I spent the whole night with Theo basically. At the start he said to me 'tell me if you're going to get with girls tonight, cos there's some gay guy here I could easily get with' and I told him nah. Anyway, we got really close and he told me he thinks about me all the time and likes everything about me. And I told him that I couldnt be fully straight cos of the way I felt about him, but it was probably cos he was so girly and pretty that's why. But that there was this thing between us, but that I didn't know what it was. Anyway, we ended up all sleeping in Carlos' bed, and I had to make Theo big spoon me, as I was scared his ass against me would've made me hard lol. Anyway, cuddling him was really nice and I told him that I was gonna miss him when he went home for the Easter break.....So yeah I don't know what's going on, I miss him a bit and he has got a special place in my heart. Just, I couldnt imagine having sex with him, or dealing with all the stuff of suddenly being in a relationship with a boy. Not to mention that I would probably miss pulling girls. Not sure what to do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): Hey, I'm the question asker.
I find Theo really attractive yeah and when I was in bed with him and I felt his ass, I had to stop myself from f***ing him. But its just when I think about it all, its so weird for me, like I've grown up round here, everyone knows me for being straight etc ..... I don't know, like when he told me about this guy he had sex with a month or so back I found myself feeling really jealous and p*ssed off....
I'm not trying to be a cock tease its just a very messed up situation....
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reader, georgey5100 +, writes (2 April 2012):
Well put by Honeypie if a little harsh... youve gotta take a long hard look in the mirror and decide what you're into. Only you can decide whether you are sexually attracted to boys. Do you ever think about guys in a sexual way? (I dont mean in dreams cos they dont count)
If you still cant decide yet I think its best to let Theo go, because he sounds like a great guy. In the words of Boy George... "Do you really want to hurt" him? :/ ..... the longer you leave it, the more its gonna hurt him.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (29 March 2012):
 I think you need to let poor Theo know that you aren't into guys (even if you may be a little... bi-curious) he has a humongous crush on you, unless I am mistaken.
Stop with the kissing and cuddling unless you mean something by it.
You, my dear, are a world class COCK tease.
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