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writes:hi my boyfreind who ive been with a year this saturday masterbates alot and i get really anoyed as i know i am no good at wanking him my self. Am i being stupid or do i ahve reasons to moan? Every morning he gets up for work or goes in the garden i have to be alert incase his masterbating. What can i do to stop feeling like i have to be alert? PLEASE HELP ME! Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2006): I have no problems being there for my man 24/7 when he has a sexual need. I know I can turn to him for the same.
We have had deep discussions on what we want and expect from one another on all things. All things.
I have given him my consent to wake me any hour if he wants to be satisfied.
I love and trust him and he makes me happy so when he wakes me up in the morning to give him head, I happily and hugerily do so. I just happen to like it lots!
Most men are up and at them first thing in the moring anways.
Talk to him and let him know how you feel and what are you willing to do to help him not rely on wanking so often?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2006): Guys masturbate a lot--likely daily or even several times daily. My boyfriends have told me that, and I believe them because they are always ready for a handjob. Maybe you can improve your technique by talking with your guy. That may help some, but I bet it won't stop him. My current boyfriend told that when he's studying hard or he's got a bunch of school work to do, he might masturbate 5 or 6 times a day. He told me that when I do it for him, he only needs to jerk-off about once a day or once every other day. But, he still does it some, just not as often if I do it for him.
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reader, ariel + ♥, writes (4 July 2006):
 Bev that was an excellent comment I could not have worded it any better!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (4 July 2006):
 You "have to be alert" in case he's masturbating? Why? It's his penis, his choice! Would you have to be "alert" to prevent him scratching his ear, because you think you should be the only one allowed to touch his ear? Of course not.
Frankly it's kind of bizarre that you'd be so worried about this. Guys like a wank now and then; why are you so upset about it? My husband describes masturbation as 'quick, fun, no strings, no hassle', and I suggest that your boyfriend thinks the same thing. He may not want to go through all the stages of lovemaking with you, when all he wants is a fast, self-pleasing sexual release.
So try not to be so possessive of his penis. I'm sure you'd bridle if he implied you were never to touch your own genitals for your own amusement, so don't make this an issue for him. After all, who's being harmed?
And if you're self-conscious about the fact that you don't masturbate him well, why not ask him to guide you so you can get better at it? That way everyone's happy.
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reader, tonsta +, writes (4 July 2006):
hi i dont think this is anything to worry about, maybe he has a high sex drive but does not want to constantly be pestering you for sex! as some women and men do not like sex all the time, have you asked him why? there is probably a simple explanation better him masturbating then going elsewhere, so my advice is to just simply ask him, also try asking him to help you to get better at masturbating him, ask him what he likes and even ask him to show you, its easy to learn and you could both enjoy it. hope this helps and it all works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2006): why do you have to be alert? is it because it's embarassing to walk in on him? you say ur 'no good' at doing it for him - is that what's really upsetting you, thinking that he is unsatisfied or critical of ur technique? no one is a mind-reader, everyonelikes different stuff, what would happen if he showed you what he liked? getting it right would make u both happy. he might still masturbate though - why not? it's like eating snacks, it doesn't mean you don't enjoy a good dinner as well! but it would be nice to get the 'no good at it' thing sorted.
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