A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone I am feeling really down now. I really like this guy at the moment and the feeling is mutual even though we haven't made any commitments because I wanted to know him better before committing. He is a really special guy. Caring thoughtful witty etc and during our most recent phone call, I told him about my relationship past. I'm not proud of it. I've had three relationships and they were one after another. I was even a third party in one of them. I've never ever told my friends about my past. But I decided if I was to be sincere and genuine about the way I feel towards him, I had to let him know my past. Both him and I came to the conclusion that I always needed a guy in my life. I'm not afraid to admit that to him. But what I want him to know is that I'm not treating him the way I do with the previous guys because I needed a guy. In fact I made a resolution after my last relationship that my next one would not be a rebound and not just get into a relationship just because a guy is nice to me. But I'm afraid that he thinks of it that way. Is this a normal way to feel? I feel so upset and ashamed of past but I'm trying my best to change. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 December 2012):
 It is your own guilt that is eating you up. You feel bad about what you done in the past and you are scared now to get serious with this man as it looks like you are trying to find faults before anything even begins. I know you are ashamed of your past but it does not mean that he is as well and it does not mean that it has ruined your chances with him. I understand that you felt you needed to tell him about your past. But I think you need to let your past go. Stop feeling bad about it, you made mistakes and you learnt from them don't allow them to ruin your future.
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