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writes:I've lived a life of a quiet, lonely loner. It was an act of convincing myself I was better off alone and could not feel lonely. Eventually, any semblance of loneliness I had was simply masked by complacency. This turned me into believing that I needed to do anything and everything on my own, or I wasn't fit to live in this world. My life has become so minimal down to work, eat, sleep, and games/internet. The latter feels like it's been dwindling. I'm really just tired of living. Having turned 30 recently, I just don't see the point in my life anymore. I can't seem to enjoy doing anything on a social level as I would rather be back home where I feel the happiest. I feel like I'm inconveniencing myself for the sake of trying to hold any social bond be it friends or family. Obviously, this eliminates any chance of love. I'm starting to realize I can't live in this world alone. If my life hits the fan, I won't have anyone to fall back on. Family can only help so much especially since we've become so far distant from each other. Many people at this age have a significant other to fall back on. I'm worried I've screwed up my life and personality do anything about it, and I'm not sure what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, jojo1980 +, writes (17 May 2019):
 I have lived almost all of life alone. I don't like socializingTo much because it seems like I'm on a different mind set then most people.Because I have spent so much time alone I got to know my self very well.Now unlike allot of people to in w who I am. and am quite fond of myself. So this cause people to not understand me . I never lie I I never sugarcoated anyting people can never get me to do what I don't want to do. And I don't care what anyone has to say about me.no in the relationship department I don't play games unfortunately women love games. If a women tell me to lose her number I do just that. Tell me why do they always call me up later and ask why I have not called? the the truth is I've been single so long I don't know how not to be single. it's not that bad you're still young your purpose in life might come today tomorrow 20 years from now you never know
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2019): You are so young at only 30 years old, you have a ton of potential and time on your side to change the trajectory of your life to what would make you happier. I think that you should start by seeing a doctor, and ask them to look into the possibility that you may have clinical depression. Being alone so much you may not realize the symptoms that you might have. If you need medication this may help your desire to be in the company of others incredibly!Next, try to start small if you are nervous about social situations. Start with a small family event, sunday dinner with the parents, movie and lunch out with a sibling or cousin, or something like that. See if you can will yourself to enjoy it. Maybe make a game of it somehow, like try to learn a new fact about the person you are with, or a mutual relative that you would like to talk about? Tell your family about how you are feeling lonely, and would like to see more of them. Do you have a close friend that you have not seen in a while? Take a leap, reach out to them and ask them to come over to your place and play a game, or watch a movie, or something else that you enjoy. Ultimately, you did not screw up your life. You are just on a little detour, so you have to drive a little farther to get back on the road. You have a job. You have your own place. You can pay your own bills. You are not on drugs or a gambling addict. I would say it sounds like you have a lot going for you! So would most people you will meet, if you just give it another try. Also, please reach out to the national suicide hotline 1-800-273-8255 if you EVER start seriously thinking about ending your life. That would be a great tragedy, please do not. We are all out there waiting to meet you!BestR
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