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writes:16/f..since my boyfriend and i don't see each other very often and he apparently wants to "save" the relationship so he doesn't get tempted with anyone else..(mostly in his case..) he made a plan. on early dismissal at our school (which was today) he wanted me to ask my parents if they could drop me off at the mall. then, he would come to the mall and we would take the bus to his house. at his house, we'd do "sexual" things. and he even implied on having sex..which I STRONGLY disagree with at such an early age. but..i'm way too nice..so i pretended to consider it. which i'm disgusted at now. and well..today, i lied to him that my mother didn't let me go. when in fact, if i asked..she would've dropped me off at the mall ANYTIME. but i knew that if i went, i would've succumbed to his pressure..and done something stupid. but now i feel like he's going to break up with me because of this. because there's no hope in seeing him outside of school. i'm scared he'll get together with the ex living next to him and have sex with her instead. should i worry about this? any advice would be appreciated :| he's 16 btw
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): If he only wants you for sex then he doesn't value you enough. Don't feel blackmailed into doing anything you don't want. If he wants to have sex with the other girl then he may do that whatever you do, or have sex with you first then move on to her. In a sexual situation, both people should want it.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 HEY!!
If your boyfriend does break up with you.. then you will know he was just after one thing. You are worth SO MUCH BETTER!! Dont do anything you dont want to.. and keep dodging situations where you may be tempted to be nice.. GOOD LUCK!! Feel free to mail me about anything x x x
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (18 April 2008):
 This boy is playing you, telling you need to have sex to save your relationship so he won't be tempted by someone else, can you say horn dog? Leave him alone, he is only looking for a conquest and why would you care if goes off to have sex with his ex if he has so little feelings or respect for you, it is better to see this for what it is, a guy who just wants to get his rocks off, with anything in a tight pair of jeans. He is disrespecting you, knowing that you don't want to have sex, and he sees you as a challenge, once he gets his way with you he will quickly lose interest....I hope you do the same and lose this guy quick. No decent guy would ever pressure you into having sex.
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reader, muffy +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Okay,you went about this all wrong.I lied to a guy who wanted to do the same thing and he figured out and everything is awkward between us now.So you need to tell him how you feel.Just tell him that your not/werent ready to have sex but you still love him and dont want to brake up.If your worried about the whole "sex with ex"thing,dont be.You gotta have a little trust in him.If he does have sex with the neighbor,then hes a cheap whore and you should forget about him.You deserve better.Hope everything works out for you.
love always,
Muffy
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reader, vsnod +, writes (18 April 2008):
 You should NEVER let someone pressure you to have sex. You are not ready and you really need to stick to that and wait until you are ready. Be your own person and be proud of that. If he is a good guy and the right guy for you, he will will not pressure you about sex, but you need to tell him. (not pretend you want to mess around and really don't mean that!)
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