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writes:I feel like I'm about to have a breakdown. I am gay and have been with my boyfriend for a few years. The problem is sex. My body and mind yearn and ache for it so badly but my boyfriend is indifferent to say the least. We have sex about once a week and it just isn't enough. I've tried everything I can think of and others can suggest but nothing lifts his interest. I've talked ot him about it and things always pick up but never for long. If I try for more he just backs off, rejects me or worst of all acts annoyed. When he takes of his shirt at night for bed I almost fall to pieces. It is driving me insane. If there was a drug I could take that would kill my sex drive I think I'd take it. It is making me an absolute wreck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the advice. We've talked about the problem a number of times and he won't ever say WHY he doesn't want to. I don't ever ask for sex annymore as the constant rejection was hurting me too much. He isn't stressed, won't heed to my calls for him to go to the doctor, is faithful, doesn't masturbate and is otherwise a great, fun and loving partner. I've tried giving him a taste of his own medicine but it got to about a month and he wasn't phased in the slightest, and didn't even realise it had been so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): some people just wont partisipate no matter what you try,being in that situation myself i know how fustraiting it is. its highly unlikely that his sex drive will suddenly rise, more likely it will decrease further. really what you need to decide is if you can live with the situation, maybe after having a few drinks get him talking about what really turns him on, then he mite come out of his shell a bit more, but if his sex drive is low then unless you can convince him to take something for it, theres not much you can do hunny
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reader, daniellexxxx  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 He may be stessed due to work and sometimes people can go of sex due to work problems.
Let him ask you for sex he will probably get a bit scared your going of him if you stop asking him.
Talk to him tell him this is it talk or thats itwhen you have sorted your problems you will be fine just try not show how much you want sex.
Good luck.
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