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I'm a virgin who doesn't know if she's straight or bi?

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Question - (13 May 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 14 May 2012)
A female France age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i'm a virgin who doesn't know if she's straight or bi. i think i'd love to suck some pussy given the chance but i never get turned on when i watch it being done in porn movies, actually i never get turned on at all watching any kind of porn. which is probably why i don't even know HOW to masturbate. i've given a blowjob or two but that never turned me on either. i can feel attracted to both guys and girls but i never get turned on by either sex. what is wrong with me!!? help please!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2012):

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thanks for being so helpfull! i feel a bit better already.

@PerhapsNot: i was dating the guys i gave the bjs to, and because i didn't feel like having sex with them, nice as they were (wasn't turn on at all so thought it might not be a good idea to do so), i decided to at least please them in some way. they tried too but didn't get even the least bit wet. the only time i've ever gotten wet's when a guy kissed me a while ago but he was married with two kids (whom i knew)so i got as far away as i could.

@Natasia: sex-starved is precisely the right word for me. yay, lucky me :P i agree but hey, getting a boyfriend really isn't as easy as it might sound :D

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A female reader, PerhapsNot United States +, writes (13 May 2012):

PerhapsNot agony aunt"i never get turned on at all watching any kind of porn. which is probably why i don't even know HOW to masturbate."

First off, let me tell you that you aren't the only person that doesn't get turned on by porn. Porn doesn't turn me on and there are 2 people I know (one being male) that don't have a sexy reaction to porn either. The fact that you don't know how to masturbate isn't linked to porn. What turns you on is a personal thing. You have yet to discover what that is and chances are, it won't be in porn flicks. And until you try a variety of things with another person, you'll never truly know.

"i've given a blowjob or two but that never turned me on either. i can feel attracted to both guys and girls but i never get turned on by either sex."

I'm pretty sure that MANY women don't get turned on giving bjs, so you're not some type of a freak. What about you? What has anyone done to you, or for you that turned you on? Or were you always the person giving and not receiving anything? Secondly, finding someone physically attractive and being turned on are two completely different things. Most women don't get turned on looking at a good-looking man or woman. I certainly don't. I can appreciate beauty, but something has to be done to me to get turned on. Maybe you're comparing yourself to men, who usually DO get turned on by visual stimuli. Keep in mind though, you are a woman and most women don't work that way.

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A female reader, natasia United Kingdom +, writes (13 May 2012):

natasia agony auntYou are not, in my humble opinion, gay or bi. You are just sex-starved. It is strange, though, that no porn turns you on - but maybe that is because despite your strong sex drive, you have not yet even begun to explore your self, and you have no outlet for these feelings.

My advice is the same as before: get a boyfriend (girls are very boring - men have the key equipment) (I don't really mean that, but honestly, you would not want to miss out on the main action).

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