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writes: i have been dating a guy for 5months but we havent had sex and its because i dont know how much he expects of me. i am still a virgin and he is not.... please please please give me some tips on what to do?
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reader, pica +, writes (29 November 2006):
Sex isn't a test and you mustn't feel you have to service him in some way .. that's not what a relationship is about, a good relationship at least. Sex is about mutual pleasure, not performing porn star acts. Your relationship shouldn't be about 'what he expects of you'. The physical side should be enjoyable for both of you. Suggest you talk to him and establish boundaries. The other aunts are right - if you have doubts, don't do it and especially don't do it if he is putting pressure on you (not that you have said he is).
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): This is probably not what you want to hear.
Don't do it. Unless you're completely ready and you know you have a future with him. The first time you make love is the one you remember the most, not the 2nd or 3rd, but it's the most awkward and least passionate of all the times you'll make love, especially if you aren't emotionally prepared for it. Just tell him you don't feel comfortable just yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): If I were you I wouldnt ruin my virginity on someone Ive dated for five months. You cant ever take that back. More than likely he has been waiting to get some from you. Dont DO IT.... youll be glad you didnt. If he loves you he will wait as long as it takes.
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