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writes:Hey guys, first of all I would like to thank each and everyone of you in advance for your help. Second, I apologize for my grammar as english is not my native language.Well, here it goes. I've always been the "tomboy" I wouldn't take it to the extreme but I've never cared for what I wear as long as it was comfortable, in fact I used to wear my brother's shirts which I still do sometimes. The thing is, I've currently entered into the boy's world (a little too late for I'm 19 years old) and I recently realized how important your appearances can be when it comes to men. I've always thought inner beauty mattered the most hence I didn't care for what I wear as I thought boys would see past through my image and get to see my soul. True, inner beauty is important, extremely as it will never fade (unlike the external) but, in order to catch someone's eyes first physical appearances are crucial (nowadays) as it's the most exposed part of our being.Yesterday for example, I was at a friend's party and I couldn't help but look at my friend's clothes. They looked so femine, all of them. I know it might sound crazy but it wasn't till yesterday that I realized how a skirt or a certain pair of heels can transform you. They all looked incredibly good and I felt quite left out from that world, from that girl universe. All of them wearing heels and skirts, while I went for the old jean and the shoes. Now don't get me wrong guys, I don't wanna change who I am, I'll always be who I am inside out. I just want to feel "sexy", I want to feel good with myself and have this other perspective from guys. I want to be confident and let myself show throughout clothes, I want to feel beautiful and somehow girly, at least when it comes to the person I like, but I just find it too hard to balance my personality with appearances.Thanks again guys, I'm extremely sorry for the length of the question, didn't mean to make it that long. I apologize Reply to this Question
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reader, Flei +, writes (5 December 2010):
Flei is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot guys, all answers were useful, thank you for your time
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Well buy some sexy girlier clothes then. Your personality will stay the same
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 It's true that inner beauty is more important that the outer shell, but it's also true that there is no law against being beautiful inside AND outside. What's wrong with being the best you can be ? Same as you express the potential of your brain by studying,learning,discussing etc..you can express your potential for appeal and attractiveness by the way you dress and groom yourself.
As a fashion conscious Italian, I admit I have a hard time relating to this "what counts is inner beauty thing ". As if taking care of yourself is necessary stupid, superficial or even eveil. Why ? It's natural. You've got a voice- you sing. You've got legs - you walk, run, dance.
You've got femininity and charme ( EVERY woman has its own ) - you help it come out.
Start by little steps, though. Don't make a sudden total makeover and only wear what you feel natural and comfortable in. Otherwise, you'lllook and act as if you were in costume.
For instance, no high heels yet . You've got to be used to them for having a gracious , elegant walk. But no scruffy sneakers either ! There are so many cute flat shoes - "ballerinas ", loafers, boots or sandals ( according to the season ).
Hair is paramount ,too. Let the grow. Long hair make you feel instantly sexy. And shorts cut only really become to
faces with very regular features anyway. You don't need to spend a fortune in hairstylists, you can wash and style your hair at home, but make sure it's always clean ,soft and shiny ( buy good shampoos and conditioners ).
If your hair is already long but sort of blah,nondescript- apply some highlights. ( You can buy the product at the drugstore, it's easy to do at home ).
Lingerie is important too. For your self confidence, even if there is nobody who would see it :). When I have tastefully sexy, colo coordinated lingerie on, is an authomatic self confidence boost. It's like having on an invisible magic shield :) Try to believe. Well, good lingerie is expensive so maybe at your age you cannot afford it yet, but please color coordinate. All white, or all black,- solid colours.
A dab of make up. Not a full face if you never use it. But some lipgloss and a coat of mascara cannot hurt.
I agree with the other poster who suggested leggings, with a long top on. Leggings ARE sexy and at the same time very practical and comfortable.
Dressing all in black head to toe- yeah I know, is much "seen " , not very creative, yet all black is perfect to hide figure flaws and to give you a slight air of sensuality and sophistication.
No track suits ever out of the gym. Hoodies,...only when it rains :)
Now. Here you go, my young beautiful Argentinian. Go and kill'em !
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Well buy some sexy girlier clothes then. Your personality will stay the same
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 I know loads of girls just like you and they've never found a problem with the way they dress - and yes some do have boyfriends. I'm not 100% sure but I think that a couple of them even have kids now.
I'm not much into fashion and only wear things that I feel comfortable in too although they are still quite girly. If you do want to wear something more girly try something like leggings with a long loose fitting top. It's what I wear most of the time now. Or I wear shorts or a skirt over the leggings with just a normal top. And, depending what mood I'm in I'll wear either trainers or some boots (withouth heels).
Oh and by the way, I thought you're english was very good.
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