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writes:i am a mmember of the clergy..must be very discreet..not a pedophile but gay..want to have gay relationships with guys of legal age..but must be very very careful..i got burned once when a guy used me to get hush money..i only saw him once..it was in chat room hookup..and we met and then bam..so i must be extra cautious..any help would be appreciated...and please know i cant come out or else i lose my livelihood..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): I agree - the best option would be to find a new livlihood. Without doing that it is always going to be really hard for you. If you did manage to get into a relationship sooner or later the other person would get sick of tired of having to be in the closet with you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 I'm with Uncle Phil.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (5 December 2007):
 What sort of clergy member are you? Are you a priest, a minister? Because in some denominations it's okay to be gay and a member of the clergy. Perhaps it is time for you to give up your church that you are at now and find a church who will accept you. I've gone to church with a great lesbian minister. I love her (and her partner) and she is a wonderful minister.
I think you should learn to accept yourself and your sexuality or else you will never TRULY find happiness. What good is life if you have to hide behind your true self until the end of it? Once you accept your life and yourself - besides, God made you this way, God is okay with it, God loves you - you will be able to live life to it's fullest.
Good luck!
xxIndia
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 I think you should leave the clergy, you could still pray to god and live your life the way you want.
Besides, if God and the rest of the clergy don't respect you because you're gay, then they arn't the forgiving and loving people they claim to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): Perhaps you should consider a different career? You can change your job, but not your sexuality.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): Im really sorry but i dont think anyone can really help you with this one . Unfortuntly it is very hard to keep these things discreet and you will lose your livelyhood , maybe it would help to join a dating site online and try and get to know someone that way first its a lot better then a chat room and prob should look for one you have to pay to sigh up to . And see how you go from there if you meet someone build up some trust and go from there but you will need to be honest with whomever you meet before you start any serious relationship or you might make somebody feel betrayed and it could come back to burn you . i would stay out of the chat rooms and maybe think of retiring early as i know this is your livelyhood but if your unhappy having to spend your life alone is it really worth that ?Take care and God bless
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