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22-25,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for nearly four years. I am on a semester abroad and we have not seen each other for over two months. I will be returning in May. We have always been faithful and trust has never been an issue until he recently confessed to having a cyber thing a long time ago when he was only 16 which you all gave me solid advice about when I wrote. I have encouraged him to make lots of friends as he is very shy and I don't care if he makes friends with girls as long as he is upfront about it. I have many male friends and am a more outgoing person. He recently told me he was going on an overnight with 4 guys and two girls all freshmen in college. He said they had fun but that he drank too much and felt sick(he hasn't really done a lot of drinking). I saw some pictures of the trip his friend posted on facebook and I don't know how I feel about them. In several photos, one of his friends is standing on a bed holding a vodka bottle in front of his hips like an erect penis and one of the girls who my bf is now freinds with is pretending to give him oral sex. In another photo, my bf is sleeping on his side at the very edge of the bed with his back to this girl who is also in the bed. She is talking on her phone facing the other way. All 7 people shared the two beds which I don't have a problem with, but since I have not met her yet and I saw that picture, I am a little concerned. I need a little perspective here. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Talk to him and ask him to explain the whole situation. You did push him to get out there and get more friends, so you cannot complain too much now. Did he sleep with anyone while they were away, if yes, then that is a whole different thing. Talk and find out more info but i bet it was just an innocent bit of fun.
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reader, sunrise  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 Hi, just ask him and if you've had a trusting relationship for 4 years you will know if he's lying, but as he's been so open about the whole thing i doubt he is. i think that if he was aware that the photo's were going to be displayed and if he had anything to hide he would have come clean. Like i said ask him, tell him your doubts and fears and that you need reassurance. you need to clear the air now, it will niggle away at you and destroy the relationship if you dont sort it.Good luck and i truly hope your fears are unfounded. x
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