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writes:Ive always loved my breasts. Im a full 36c. Well a few months ago my bf at the time always made fun of my breasts saying that they were small and sagging(im only 18, there's no way their saggy). We would have sex and he would still comment on them. We broke up not to long ago but when we do talk he always has something to say about them! Ive been considering getting breast implants because those comments have been making me insecure. I never had anything done to my body before. Ive never even had my hair dyed! I like the natural look. So tell me, what do you guys think about breast implants?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 October 2009):
 If she's a 36C then I'm running in the negative numbers
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (13 October 2009):
 Attn: Aunts and Uncles: This poster is clearly on here to get attention or to solicit men. Take a look at her profile before you even answer this question:
http://www.dearcupid.org/people/candy_apple_69
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reader, TalkingHelps  +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Honey, you said you liked them why change that, you two aren't even going out anymore, plus it's not about 'needinng' breastimplants, it's about wanting them and i don't think you want them as you like your look natural!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): This guy is obviously a tool, the break up was a good call if he treated you like that, you are perfectly fine, so many guys would kill for C's on their girl, trust me I am one :)
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reader, Illithid + ♥, writes (25 September 2009):
 DO NOT get implants. Some men want HUGE breasts, but there are men like me that like small ones (I would prefer B or C, but rather fell for the A cups of my last girlfriend). Don't mutilate yourself just because one ex got the impression from porn that women should barely be unable to stand up with the weight of their chests. Besides, EVERY man I know agrees that real is better than fake, from a feel and even from an appearance aspect. Fake just doesn't move right.
Don't do it. Please.
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reader, unorthodox.philosopher  +, writes (25 September 2009):
Well I hope he's joking. If not,he must've watched too much porn and comparing your natural beautiful breast to those silicon balloon bags. Starting making fun about his small cock see how he feels. He clearly is not a good bf material, you should never or even getting started to let a man to doubt yourself in such way. A right man for you would always make you feel beautiful about yourself, inside out. Either way, I wanna let you know that a truly beautiful woman(as you're still a girl) needs to feel beautiful about themselves without having assurances from others. It's a very important aspect you need to learn sweetheart. Tick him off the list
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reader, alwayznd4eva116 + ♥, writes (25 September 2009):
 umm, no. you should be happy with what you have. i wish i was that size. my breasts are so small. i hate them so much and im so self concious about the
. im 18, too but still look like im freakin 12 or something. and even if i had the hundreds of dollars for implants, i sure wouldnt get them. the surgery part scares me. but you should be glad your that size because ppl, like myself, wish they had what you had.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (25 September 2009):
 Q's a little shit faced this afternoon. This is his penis speaking. Right now he is slumped over his monitor and the keyboard fell into his lap. I am here making sure someone calls 911 if he starts turning blue. I call all the shots here any way so it's about time I get to speak for myself and not through that long winded jack-ass. First I would like a show of hands from the guys out there. Would any one argue with this girl if she wanted to implant a breast on each side of your face? What if she wanted to work her way down from there? That's what I thought. Get on here and let's show Candy Apple 69 a little love.
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reader, damluvaam + ♥, writes (25 September 2009):
 Nooooo! Well, I say no from a man's point of view because, personally, I, like you, think "natural" is the way to go. To me, it looks better and feels better. Plus, I've been on this gripe campaign lately about how plastic surgery is becoming the new "issue" like photo shopped pictures of models in mags have been for years with young women. Who can live up to it and where does it stop?
I say, natural no matter the size!
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (25 September 2009):
 hahaha! pinktopaz beat me to the punch. Telling a girl that her breasts are too small is the same as telling a guy that his penis is too small, just insulting and the WRONG thing to say to someone who thought well enough of you to sleep with you. What a moron.
You are actually the most common size in the US today. I'm with you on being natural. Why improve on perfection and how the good Lord made you?
It's quite another thing to have a lift, reduction or implants to improve how you feel about your breasts if they need it after breastfeeding, or if you are truly unhappy with a AA cup (but you can dress so sexy when you have smaller breasts!). And don't forget, once you do go under the knife, there's always further operations and adjustments when they start heading south because they are larger, not to mention stretch marks. I'm sure that many people don't have that problem, but many do.
My Dad always joked about filling a champange glass, and my husband always said that more than a handful is a waste! You are at least a handful - so why would you want more? It's also hard to support more than what you have, and I hope that you are wearing firm support and well measured bras. I'm also a 36 C at 54, they're still up where they belong thanks to Marks and Spencers and Victoria's Secret. ;^) !!!
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (25 September 2009):
 There's no reason to get implants if you are satisfied and happy with what you have. And you should never change something about yourself for somebody else.Obviously ur bf is a dick.And your not even together anymore so why does it matter.
Loook you're fine the way you are. If you want the implans get them if you're sure about it.Nut just do what makes you happy...and maybe you'll find a more decent guy in the future.
Godd luck :) -ardy
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reader, A_Faylene_Mandie_Marie +, writes (25 September 2009):
 if you like your breasts, what the hell does his opinion matter? He needs to understand that the only women that have perfectly perky breasts are the porn stars that put all kinds of money into their bodies. You are 18 you have enough security issues, don't let one guy's opinion pull you down. I'm sure you are beautiful, i used to be a 36c but since i had my son im now a 38d and im ok with my breast now but i liked them better back before i had my son. So don't let his opinion hurt you, maybe he's insecure about himself and it makes him feel better to put you down and see he's hurting you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): Oh, no, please don't!
First, IMHO 36C is the *perfect* size.
Second, while young immature porn afficianados may like implants, there are lots of guys who *really* prefer natural. A bag of silicone in no way compares with the perfection of mother nature, in look or in feel.
Third, any surgery is risky. Elective surgery is a terrible idea when it's both cosmetic and unnecessary. I wouldn't for a second suggest that someone who's had breast cancer not have it if she wanted it, of course, but for a young, healthy (and likely very nearly perfect) girl, it's a dumb, dumb idea.
Don't let the comments of an idiot prompt you to do something so unwise and risky. I'd be willing to bet a lot of money that implants wouldn't improve you one bit.
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reader, spurioux +, writes (25 September 2009):
Hmmm, why are you still talking to that idiot? What an ass. I've never said anything like that to a woman.
If you like your breasts don't mess with them. There is nothing more unattractive than a pair of fake tits. Really, the only time I think women should get plastic is if they have had a masectomy or if they have some kind of genetic defect where one is dramatically different than the other.
I have dated lots of women, from 40DDD to some with very lovely nipples (and not much else). I can tell you that the size of their breasts had very little to do with my attraction to them.
My advice; Stop talking to this guy and find a man that is attracted to you and your body...and then see how you feel about surgery.
Spurioux~
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reader, Xearo +, writes (25 September 2009):
 I think breast implants are stupid as well as the girls that have them as well.
I could prolly go on and on about how personality is the real key and no guy likes touching rocks but hey, its your body so do w/e u want.
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reader, pinktopaz + ♥, writes (25 September 2009):
I think it's okay to get them if they're for YOU. But most women get implants to have the size that you already have. If you like your boobage and think they're just fine the way they are--then no, don't get implants.
Just a suggestion, you should comment to your now ex-boyfriend that his penis is too short for most womens' taste and bent in an awkward position and see how he likes it. What a jerk!
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (25 September 2009):
 You seem like a decetly confident person so it surprises me that you're acting like you're terribly insecure. He is one of the few men who will have anything negative to say about your breasts and you should love yourself enough to be yourself and be natural reguardless of some fool.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents + ♥, writes (25 September 2009):
 I'm not a guy, I'm a girl. If you have 36C breasts you should not do anything to them. Seriously. That is a perfectly normal size, and I think you already know that. If you just needed someone else to confirm it, there you go. Again I am not a guy, I am a girl. But I think we both know 36C is not a breast size that is desperately screaming to go under a knife!
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reader, a Ginger-Rabbit-Fairy  +, writes (25 September 2009):
 No.
(I'm a bisexual female if that counts.)
Honestly, you don't need that. I'm sure you look lovely, and I'm quite against plastic surgery - it can easily become addictive, and apparently boobs can keep developing into your 20s so you shouldn't be changing them until you have at least allowed them to finish growing. You may only want a slight enlargement, but what if that turns into 5? And a nose job? If you need any further dissuasion, look at Alicia Douvall. x
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