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writes:I'm a 17 year old male and I'm in love with a 12 year old girl. I know she likes me too but I don't know if I should say anything. I know her mom really well cuz she goes to my church. I don't want anyone to think differently about me but I can't get this girl out of my head. What should I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, forbidenbutsmitten  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 im in a simillar sitation like you but im 12 and fancy an 18 yr old! If i was you i would sit her down and tell her how you feel. You might not be able to date now but you can date her in the future! So when she gets a bit older ask her then and take it slowly because if it is true love you and her will wait a while then date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): i think that you should not say anything. well im not really not sure be cause i am in love with some ne to but i am not sure he loves me.so do what your heart tells you. i wished i could do the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): I would suggest researching the penalties of what you might be considering (legally). It varies from state to state. When I was 17 I started dating my girlfriend who at the time was only 14. (still together after almost 5 years) She was 15 by the time I turned 18, and in the state that I live, if there is less than a 3 year age difference any legal charges would only be a misdimeanor. But with a 5 year gap that could put you into type I or type II felony even if she was consenting. So if you look into how harsh the penalty is, it might help you get her out of your system.
But hey if your really serious, stay friends till shes 16+.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (13 August 2007):
 Are you really sure you're in 'love' with this 12 year old? It seems a little odd to me, Are you sure that maybe you just care about her and want to look after her as in being in the role of a big brother? If you disagree with what i'm asking you...then dats okay! But i seriously wouldn't go telling her mom, she'd probably be furious and keep this vulnerable little girl away from you - any caring mother would! She may even accuse u as a pervert. Just be careful and don't take advantage of the little thing!
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reader, TasteofIndia + ♥, writes (13 August 2007):
 I agree with the other posters. Since you are older, you need to be the responsible one and nip this in the bud. She is still VERY young... not even a teenage yet, and you're about to be an adult!
The wonderful thing is, since this girl is in your church family, she'll probably stay in your life for a long time. Be a friend to her but nothing else. Maybe when she's seventeen and you're twenty two, then you two can actively pursue a relationship.
But for the time being, do the girl a favor and let her grow up before getting into a grown up relationship.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (13 August 2007):
 I think the other posts gave you really good advice. I would leave this one alone.
k
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (13 August 2007):
 I agree with both posters your a man now and she is still a little girl.
You may have to find someone your own age as a 17 year old dating a 12 year old is wrong.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (13 August 2007):
 If you don't want people to think differently of you then don't do anything.
I think you need to start getting out more and find some girls that are your own age, because twelve and adult is really very wrong.
Take care.xx.
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (13 August 2007):
 Hi
No you shouldnt do anything! This girl is a minor. I would be mortified if a 17 year old was trying to hit on my 12 year old. Its all wrong & your morlas should tell you to steer clear.
C xxxx
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