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writes:hi, I'm dating a guy who is 24 and I'm 17 we started out friends at are job burger king and after I quit we still talk on the phone and everything he was having problems with his marriage and I was just there to help him until one day he came over and we kissed and from there it started and I already lied to my mom and told her his 19 and his in college but now his ex-wife is threating to tell the police were dating and I need to tell my mom that his really 24 and going threw a divorce but I don't know how to tell her?! please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): I have recently split up from dating a divorcee. We were together 8 months. In all that time p never told anyone that he had been married. I'm. 254 and he is 28 just. He got married at 25.
Looking bank, and I probably even knee it at the time, the reason I didn't tell them is that I didn't want to hear the doubts I knew they would have. I'm so hurt now I wish had sheared it.
All things said though, every situation is didderby. How long has he been split up? My situation was that he had been cheated on, trust issues theefore now exist.
Maybe like someone else suggested sit down and talk to your mum together. If he is prepared to do that, sounds like he is a keeper!!
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (5 January 2008):
 Depending on the state you live in the age of consent is either 16 or 18. If it is 18 of course you could have a problem.
Aside from that you are starting on a road of distrust with your mother. You don't want to do that.
You need to sit down with her and ask for her help.
You may even take her to a public place like a coffee shop which will place you both in a relaxed atmosphere and she will be less likely to get very agitated in public if she is prone to that sort of thing.
The other thing you want to consider is this; What was the problem that caused his divorce. Could that also become a problem in your relationship with him. If he left her, what would keep him from leaving you.
Have you ever noticed that when a person has been divorced, often times they end up divorced two, three or even four times? Just food for thought.
Above all, be truthful. Explain why you lied to her in the first place. You may be pleasantly surprised. Doc
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): Maybe you should tell her together so she can see what a responsible caring guy he is and he can answer any immediate questions she, no doubt,will have?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): Tell her sooner rather than later, before someone else does. If you are over 16 then there shouldnt be a problem, if you are happy then she should be ok with it. I dont personally have a problem with age gaps but some people do, but have that chat with your mam now.
take care
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