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writes: I'm 16 and I've been going out with my boyfriend for around 3 months. My friends all make jokes about their boyfriends' bodies, but I'm so scared that I'm never going to be able to take my clothes off in front of someone. I'm not exactly fat, I'm a size 12 and I used to feel good about myself but recently I hate my body and have even started to get changed in the toliets in PE because I don't want anyone to see me. It's ruining my life and I can't stand to look in the mirror some days. If you look at flat stomach Angellina Jolie or thin Keira Knightly- that's what men want. I'm so scared that nobody is ever going to want to be with me. Help please x x x Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): seriously? i understand that maybe you're self-conscious about your weight and how you look, but that shouldn't deter you from being yourself. if you don't like yourself, no one will like you. you learn that as you get older. once you realize that you can be any kind of person you want to be, looks aside, i think you begin to realize that generally people just like other people. if you really want to seen a certain way you can't walk around acknowledging your fault and think that won't shine through. i think the best advice is screw everyone else and be happy. what more can you do? and darling, if you know a bunch of dudes that like girls as tiny and rail thin as kiera knightly, you're talking to the wrong guys. and by guys i mean boys. real men like curves and they like shapely figures. honestly, you can either do something about it and feel better all around or stop complaining.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): i know how you feel, i am 15 and i am like 190lbs and its not only unhealthy but it doesn't look so good either, when i see my friends who look way better or even my sister, i feel so ugly, just know that your not alone... it sucks you just dream about changing, and when your friends try and tell you that your beautiful it makes you feel worse... just try and be happy with yourself or you will be miserable for a long time. don't and as for guys, they suck, but there are some good guys out there that don't care and you'll find one... and don't worry about it i know a 25 year old beautiful women who hasn't ever had a boyfriend and she is perfectly fine with that. and my sister is really sexy and beautiful and her heart as been broken so many times and she is 18 i rather wait for someone who wont break my heart then settle
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): i know just how u feel.
I am worried that ppl will make fun of me.
Im not fat but i am chubby, lol
If anyone, even ur friends make fun of ur body then their not really ur friends.
I meen ppl who date sumone just cause of their body and looks r selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Yeah, try having a baby.. getting stretch marks all over your tummy and lose skin saggy boobies from breast feeding. Then tell me about hating your body. If you don't like it get off your lazy bum and do something about it. Maybe try a few sit ups? Oh and trust me honey the guy doesn't care about you're tummy he cares about other areas. You are to young to be thinking about taking your clothes off in front of a guy anyways. Finish high school and Go to college.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): People shouldn't really judge a book by its cover.Sure it's nice to see girls with nice body. But honestly, I think nice body is pointless if you can't win a guy's heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): i felt EXACTLY the same as you when i was 16 about the same size too...im still that size... im 19 now but ive been with my boyfriend since i was 16 and he loves my body. he is the reason im okay with my body now because of him. guys dont think women should look like stars...i used to think that too..but a lot of guys (at least all the guys ive dated) like girls with a booty and some curves they can hold on to. Guys like real women not annorexic ones that they have to be afraid to break lol. trust me...you will learn that really soon. dont be self concious...i spent a lot of time treating myself bad and you will look back and regret it. love yourself the way you are...youre probably exactly what a lot of guys want.
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reader, Auntie Mo  +, writes (12 February 2008):
At the moment you are a young lady and your body is still growing you have plenty of time in your life to get your body looking the way you want it to, you should concentrate on your exams(if at school or college),or your career and what you want to do in your future. The famous people have lots of money to pay for surgery or personal trainers too
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): At the moment you are a young lady and your body is still growing you have plenty of time in your life to get your body looking the way you want it to, you should consentrate on your exams(if at school or college),or your career and wat you want to do in your future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): First of all...you have PLENTY of time. You shouldn't LEGALLY be taking your cloths off in front of anyone until you're over 18...otherwise it's illegal...and possibly statutory rape. So, high school is a tough time, when everyone focuses on someone else to diminih their own flaws. Be true to yourself. You know your strengths, so focus on them. High schools is like purgatory before college -- get through high schools the best you can and then you will be rewarded in the end in college. Ask yourself what you want and then be true to that regardless of what people say. And I can prove this...I was a redhead who wore glasses and was in band and lots of other activities...things that might offer the orpportuniy to pcik on me. But I worked hard to maintain my goal of graduating and desire to make friends...even though I wan't perfectly skinny. I found that it's not your size...it's your confidence. So, once you find your confidence...be prepared for the rest of what I've shared with you. Confidence can take you ANYWHERE. It sounds cheesy but it's true. Recognize that ATTENTION does not equal love, committment, or truth. Belive that you are worhty of true love, respect and commitment...and you WILL get it. You HAVE to belive it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): i kno how u feel im 16 nd im 155lbs, ppl say i don't look it but i don't believe them. i take alli nd it kinda helps a lil bit but ur supossed to be 18 shhhh...but juss try to eat healthier and exercise more. i play soccer nd softball nd basketball and that's how i keep myself busy in a fun way. try somthing new like field hockey its fun, you make friends nd u get the right exercice you need
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): Honestly, you need to do what feels right to you. I've been unhappy with my body since about 8th grade, and guess what? I'm in college now and I still hate myself. I've always been a runner, so I run between 3-4 miles a day and I'm a size 2, but I still see that I'm fat, my stomache isn't flat and I have a horrible metabolism. At one point I was even contemplating suicide. DONT LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU!!! If being thin really matters to you see a dietician or start a gym program. I'm now on an intense diet of only fruit as a last resort to lose weight, and if this doesn't work I'm going to see a trainer. Just do what you need to, and get your self confidence back!!! GOOD LUCK!! :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): hey i'm 16 and i'm a 12-14 and i HATE my body. i mean i could be a lot worse, and a few years ago i was a 16 which was terrible. unfortunately society treats people differently depending on their appearance :( i KNOW i'd be treated better if i were thinner. if i tell you not to stop eating all together i'd be a hypocrit because it's not like i've stopped doing that. it's addictive when you think it's working but once you start you can't stop even when you want to so i wouldn't reccomend doing it. nobody looks like the celebrities anyway.. and 12 is a good size! i'm almost there. i'd be happy if i could get to 10. my boyfriend loves how i look but i hate it and i want to change. i know how you feel and all i can say is hang in there okay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): Hey,
I completely inderstand how you feel. I'm so insecure about myself too. It's not that I'm fat, I'm an 8 but it's because I have curves anywhere on me. My stomach is horrible, I want to have a nice flat toned stomach but it seems to be impossible to get one. I barely fit an 32A and have no hips. It especially hard when you have a twin sister who is stunning, has a gorgeous body with size 32D boobs. She is so lucky and makes me feel so ugly and small.
I really hope everything works out for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): I know how you feel, even though im a zero, being skinny isnt all its cracked up to be.
Because ive always been thin i have a constant pressure to stay that way, i hate looking at myself in mirrors, if i find any fat on my body i feel disgusting and wear loose clothes
All of this stress to be thin is taking away from who you really are, i know that when i walk through the halls i dont pick on everybody and their bodies, we are being wayyy to hard on ourselves and we really need to try to love ourselves and have a good personality and sense of humour.
Good luck :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): It's OK to be self-conscious about your body. If you wanna lose weight, get a trainer. I am overweight. I have been on diets, but I have only lost a few pounds. Just remember that guys like girls of who they are....not what they look like!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): sweetie, your 16, and lets face it your body is still very young. you won't be fully developed until around 20, relax and enjoy yourself, and if you are seeing the right guy then he'll find you more attractive than any other girl...seriously i think i'm disgusting, but my b/f really loves me. don't let it affect you so much, you'll never get over it, diets are so bad for young people, just eat healthily and excersize, you'll start to feel better.
ps guys DO NOT find keira knightly or any other uber skinny model/acress sexy, trust 12 is a very good size!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): hello....i had the same problem when i was your age. My stomach,butt,hips,and thighs were to much of a problem.....so i got myself involved in my school's sports like volleyball, basketball, and soccer. My hips,stomach,and thighs went away, but my butt was too big. so i started working out, doing things like squats to make my butt smaller. Now at age 21 i am happy to be a size 6 (or 8)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): its funny it doesn't matter your size or shape but you will feel exactly the same about the way you look...i have spent the last two years at the gym and have managed to lose some weight (i can't deny it it the best way to lose weight) but the fact is that i will never look like the girls in magazines...i thin that its more about realising that all the girls we aspire to actually don't look that great in real life as they are nothing but bones
Guys may say they like all the girls in magazines but when i go out on an evening, the gir; who lokks 'normal' always gets the mosrt attention - at the end of the day its not only difficult but also unhealthy to try to be like they are in the magazines
If you want to lose weight then eat healthy and work out, combine cardio with lifting weights as cardio is useless on its own. Also you have to do a full body work out as you can't pick and choose where to lose weight you need overall fitness, But trust me at the end you will feel better as well as look better...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): Face the truth: you're fat, and boys dont like fat chicks. Now go exercise, diet, consistently, studying, seeing a doctor. With wisdom and perseverance. Become thin. Then boys will like you
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): u guys have very false impression of celebrities,beyonce, britney back when she was sane, angelina, lindsay lohan before she went ano appear thin but they arent stick thin. they weigh more than the average women, they are just falt in general but they are not stick thin, i bet they all have bigger arms than u, try it next time u see them on tv. as for keira, she is too thin, no lean muscle, its gross, but women liek britney spears are not thin, tey are in between and they are healthy and lush. but in general if you comapred your arms or legs to their's, urs wuld be smaller, they exercise so fat goes in the right places. stick thin is yukkk. just beacuse its in alot of mags doesnt mean it looks good.the fashion industry is run by gay men, so what u see in vogue is actually what a gay man would like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): First of all, I want to say that I have issues with my body and looks, too-almost everybody does. I am very skinny with a flat stomach like you want. However, I am also very short-I am barely five foot. Every girl has a different kind of body, and guys struggle with body images as much as girls, so they are definately not into a girl just for her looks-at least no more so than girls are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): dont worry you will be ok, those stars?? have money and lots of it ,so they can afford it, you are who you are as I am, i am 32 and I feel the same, but when you look at it, those men?? you are trying to impress, are just after your nana... real men like some fat, and the skinny women, they use them and put them away, I am big and married to a wonderfull man and he is one of those pretty boy type... you are who you are and dont let those skinny women tell you anything just blow on them they will fly away... God made you the way you are, be happy you could be one of those size 22 or 36 women 12 is a good size all the luck and love, ,,,,
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Can I just say, it may sound cheesy, but just love yourself. Coming from the other end (I am tall an thin) I have been teased ALL my life for being skinny and tall with long legs, and a flat chest. Beauty on our society goes both ways. Either you're too skinny, or you're too fat. You can't please everybody, but you can please yourself. Stop worrying about how you compare to other people. Most of my guy friends tell me that body doesn't matter so much if the girl has confidence and a good personality. I mean what does that say about us girl's who value our bodies over our intelligence and personality? Do we do the same for boys? I don't think so, so then why do it for ourselves. It is not what you are it is who you are. Love yourself, or you'll just waste good time hating yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): Hey girl, I know how you feel. I am 15 years old and I too have problems with the way I look. I know how hard it is to look around and see not only the beautiful women in Hollywood, but also the slender, perfect captain of your school's cheerleading squad. I too have felt that bitter pain in the locker room when it seems like every girl other than me has a model like body. And I am afraid that I can only offer a small tidbit of advice; smile, stand up straight, and speak in a loud, clear voice. If your body is not perfect right now, work on developing your charactor. Don't forget that everyone has issues with thier bodies at this point in life, and don't let boys dictate the way you feel about yourself. I honestly believe that if you develop a good, confident charactor, your body (and mine!!) will eventually catch up. :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): In response to all of the posts here, I can both relate and sympathize to body issues. I have been both called fat at a time when I was 20 pounds or so heavier than I am now, and I have also been too thin and believe me, neither of these exteremes equal happiness. Of course, it is good to have a healthy goal and you can actually eat quite well and still remain slim, especially with some activity. If it is safe for you to lose weight, then go for it, set a goal, but be patient with yourself and I am not trying to preach but God did make you beautiful (I know that sometimes it doesn't feel like it). There was a time when I wished that I could change certian things about my body and I have now come to love those things that I would have changed, so really I am glad that I am not the one in control of how I was created. And for those who mentioned not having a boyfriend, there is not anything wrong with you. I am 19 and I have never had a boyfriend either but I have learned that I don't need to search for the right person. What I need to do is work on developing myself and strenthening my relationship with God because I know that he has a plan for my life and if he has someone for me, then I know that he will not ket the opportunity pass by; he will bring that person into my life at the right time.
I know what it feels like to experience deep emotional pain but I find strength and joy in Christ. His word brings me reassurance and calm; I am also very exited abuot what he is doing in my life and he is all that I want to live for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): im right there with you. i hate my body. esp my tummy, legs, and chest. my bf loves everything on me (supposedly) and tells me to be happy with my body because i am beautiful.
sure it doesnt help me feel better about my body, and honestly its annoying sometimes because when i seriously need him to understand my problems with my body, he insists i do not have any problems.
in the end having him compliment me is nice..
and as hard as it is with all of the pressures of society to be PERFECT, i am happy with myself and thankful i am healthy and in love.
i may hate my body..
but everyone does at some point.
sorry youre facing it too.
~ kimmie f.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): I know exactly how you feel you arent alone hon. All you can do is.... well....................I dont know. I dont even know what to do myself. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): hello,
just wanted to say i would love to be in a size 12 at this point i use to be size 7! Men will love you no matter how sexy those famous girls our because they cant have them. You think you hate your body you should try being me for a day my stomach looks like it went through a meat grinder from pregnancy because of all the stretch marks!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): Not all men want Angelina Jolie or Keira Knightley.
There are diverse tastes out there.
Unfortunately, these diverse tastes are not reflected in popular culture/mainstream media.
I suggest you take a step back from this culture and deutach yourself from it. These actresses have nothing to do with your day to day life, or your self worth, or your attractiveness, etc. They are not, and should not be, models of perfection, or the golden standard by which all women are measured.
Men do not yearn for this look in a mate. Boys do. If you are dating a boy who cannot think of anything but poorly acted porn scripts and Maxim models when he is considering what he wants in a sexual partner, then you are dating someone who is unworthy of your time. He is immature and is not yet altogether in touch with reality. Many teenage boys grow out of the bikini-model phase and come to establish their own tastes, separate from what western culture portrays as sexy/attractive. They expand their horizons and come to find that a perfectly flat stomach isn't all it is cracked up to be, and that there are millions of gorgeous women who do not look like Angeline/Keira and all the others.
These are the men who are worth dating, and worth marrying. Do not change yourself to look like the famous women because ultimately, they are a part from you and living in a hyper-reality that has nothing to do with normal life for normal people. They have money, time, and professional help. They do whatever they have to do to look that way, be it plastic surgery, weird diets, obsessive exercise, drugs, cigarettes etc etc. It's not worth it for those of us who live in "this" reality.
Your boyfriend is attracted to you, or he wouldn't be your boyfriend.
The trouble with many males is that it takes them a while to detach themselves from the standards of 'perfection' that are governed by mass media. It's troubling and hurtful for many girls and women who just don't look like that women men are taught to crave. Don't surround yourself with these types of men- trust me, there are many out there who really just aren't interested in that sort of 'perfection' and are much more interested in the perfection of imperfect individuals like yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): I am 19... I have hated my body since I was a kid... As I get older it only gets worse... I am around a size 12. I feel grotesquely fat. Ironically, I have lost about 25 pounds in the last 9 months or so, and the more weight I lose the more depressed and unattractive I feel. My boyfriend tells me I am perfect, he loves my body and he IS very sexually attracted to me ("that" part of him doesn't lie).
But whenever I see those girls on TV/movies/magazines (etc) I feel disgusting. I just want to look like that. Exactly like that. I don't even have the body type to possibly ever look like that... I have wide hips... I'm just not that "type"... I think it's truly sad that there is really only one image of what women are supposed to look like being put out there. I hate that the ones who look like "me" in the media are always cast as the ugly/outcast/undesirable girls. Girls like me are never portrayed as attractive or sexy or whatnot.
And even in "reality", I see girls that are much thinner than me, or girls with nicer chests or better legs, and all I can think is, "why is my boyfriend with me? he could be with someone who looks like THAT"...
He tells me that I am his type. Girls that look like ME. His past girlfriends have been more "shapely" and bottom-heavy, just as I am. His last girlfriend, before me, weighed about 200 pounds... So clearly he does not value skinniness... It is just not something he wants. He is an ass-man, I guess. He likes some more meat.
We've been together for 3.5 years and our sex life is great, he is still aroused by the sight of me walking past him in a thong (even if my tummy is not perfectly flat, and even if I have cellulite on my thighs). I drive him crazy, and sometimes we have to postpone plans just so he can act out his animalistic impulses.
I have no idea why this is so, WHY he likes me instead of those thinner girls...
All that matters is he does and if HE does, then so do other guys...
So.. I try to reassure myself with these things... maybe they are of some help to you as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): hmmmm....i know what u mean...i'm a size 9... not fat but not skinny like i would like to lookall of my boyfriends have been gorgeous so i always feel like crap standing next to them because i hate how i look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): Sweety, I am 23 and I have gone through SO many body issues but here is a few home truths:
1. If you are a size 12, congratulations, that means you are a healthy NORMAL size.
2. Movie stars like Angelina Jolie spend hours a day exercising, eating NOTHING, and agonising over their looks probably more than we do.
3. All their photo's are hardcore airbrushed ANYWAY.
4. If your boyfriend cares about you, he will find you sexy no matter what.
So stop worrying. You have nothing to worry about!
Jess
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): First of all, the body size that you are talking about is NOT what men want. 95% of men want a woman with curves and some softness. We don't like bags of bones. If you're getting your information from Cosmo or something, well heads up, those mags are published, written and edited by WOMEN and almost never give a man's real opinion. To us, those model-types are "disposable" women. But for a lasting relationship, we want a REAL woman. Also a little self-estem goes a long way too. If you don't like yourself, chances are you're repelling others as well. The love of my life is a size 14. Wouldn't change a thing on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): dont ever feel ashamed of your body. im 17 and only 95 pounds. i have small breast and i hate it. i cry all the time about my body. But i would kill to be a little more fuller. please love your body. im sure your a babe. and if your boyfriend really loves you. then he will love to see you with no clothes. love yourself. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): I loathe my body. I feel so uncomfortable with my weight at this point in my life. I'm noticing that some girls feel as strongly as I do about this but others seem to float along in life, gliding on their self confidence and perfect bodies. at age 15, size 5, I have never had a boyfriend which leads me to believe that something must be wrong with me, either physically or personality wise. I know people respond to these kinds of things with: "you should love your body!" and "accept you for you!" and I'm all for the confidence boosters, but if anyone has actual suggestions on how to lose weight, please let us all know.
thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): When I was in my teens I went through exactly the same fears and insecurities. I think everyone, both male and female, do go through that really self conscious, self-loathing stage. I became anorexic, bullemic and started taking handfuls of laxatives very day. I still, at 21, sometimes feel anxious about my weight and worried about what my bloke will think of me naked. Truth is though, men, especially 16 year old men, wouldn't notice if you have luminous orange nipples and scales at that point. If they manage to reach the stage where a bit of cellulite or the odd stretch mark is visible, they will be thinking with an entirely separate organ from their brain. Also, im sure your bf is equally as insecure - he probably worries about his stamina, or size or lack of muscle.
The issue is not what your bf will think. The issue is you and how you feel about yourself. The sexiest lover is the one who is able to not take themselves too seriously and isn't hindered by insecurities. Dont expect to be body confident at 16 - it just isnt gonna happen. Accept right now that you will never look like Kate Moss and just say, who gives a toss?
The single most attractive feature in anyone is confidence and happiness. Not some half-starved snotty cow with a face like a slapped arse because all she wants is a snickers.
Do stuff that makes you happy, surround yourself with friends and dance around in the buff!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): i am also 16, i do have a boyfriend n he is absoloutly gorgus! i think im really fat, i no im not as fat as some poeple, im a size 10-12 and look fine in clothes, but my stomach and underneath my bottom hav a great deal of cellulite, at first i was really scared incase my bf finishd me becos of it, but he tells me he loves my body! but he hasnt acualy seen me stood up naked, just lied down. if u feel like i do (unhappy) u really gota do sumet about it ootherwise u will always be unhappy! im ment to be going on holiday with my boyfriend in about 2months so im starting the gym and totally cutting down on food, not so long ago i did loose 1 and a half stone by just cutting down food n ino i can do it again! u just hav t think, if u really want this then do it to make ur self happy but please dont go to far over board n dont do anythings stupid!! xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): Hey! I just felt i had to reply to your letter as i wanted to reassure you that you are not alone! Also i know exaclty what you are going through and want to share my story with you to prevent you from going down the road i did. I'm also 16 and have just had the worst year of my life and the awful thing is all my issues are far from over. I used to be a little uncomfortable with the way i looked and so decided to try and lose some weight. This however set off all my problems. Losing weight is very adictive and it's hard to stop. I found that i could look in the mirror and actually like what i saw but it didn't last. I am a perfectionist and like you am hugely effected by the media and so i lost more and more weight until i became quite ill. I was cold all the time, had a runny nose, became very depressed and a recluse. I spent hours on the exercise bike instead of going out with my friends and became obsessed with what i ate - to tp it all off my periods stopped. My mum, being a nurse took me to te doctor who then reffered my to gynacologist who told me i HAD to put on some weight. I went away heart broken but decided to try and put a little bit on. This seemed a sensible descision and the only way forward but sadly what followed were TWO nasty eating disorders which are still with me today. Because i'd deprived myself so much of the food i loved when i found that i could eat them again i couldn't stop - i'm so ashamed to admit this but i couldn't stop i just ate and ate until it turned into what my therapist calls a 'Binge' from then on i developed 'Binge Eatig disorder' which of course did put the necessary weight on but to my dismay i put too much on so begn obsessively exercising again. At one point i spent an exhausting 3 hrs on the exercise bike! In addition i was so distraught at the amount i ate i began throwing up when i didn't have the energy to excerise for hours! So, i'm back to the weight and size i was before i lost weight and now have two eating disorders and an addiction to excerise - looking back i wish i'd just accepted the way i was and embraced what God had given me!
Sorry for the really long winded reply but my final message to you is please read these lyrics - hopefully thy will help you realise you are perfect the wy you are even though you may not realise it now. Look how many people have responded to you letter - it shows there are loadsof people out there who do care about you!
Anyway here are the lyrics - The song's called 'heaven rejoices'
'I know that you have waited, so so faithfully
I know that it's been painful but i want you to know
You are so pure, so precious, so lovely
You have been crowned with immesurable beauty
and heaven rejoices the moment you rise each day.
So i sing over you a song of joy
i'll let the sun shine on your face
i'll breathe new life
I'll heal your wounds
Do you know i love you?
Do you know i love you?
There is more if you want it? Email me at [email address blocked]
Love Katie
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2007): heya
Dont worry about your body your not fat and you know that, your just need a confidence boost. try going shopping with friends and get some new clothes then youll relise your not fat you just dont have the confidence.
Try wearing something slim fitting and see how you feel. You really shouldnt put yourself down because of skinny celebs they probally sit their desperaate for a burger or ice cream lol.
Dont worry its okay and your not fat you know that your just thinking of liking like a celeb who probally want to look like you.
Trying to help
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): Please try and see yourself for the beautiful person that you are.Eveyone sees themselves differently to how other people see them.You may have things that others dont have ie a stunning smile or gorgeous eyes.These so called celebrities are false and self obsessed.Just try and be confident and soon you will start to feel it.And believe me every teenage girl worries about their body no matter what size...xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): Does your boyfriend want you?
If yes,any other man in his place would also want you.
By giving prettier girls like yourself [being a 16 yr girl in itself makes you a subject of desire]; a bad body-image and promoting low self esteem ,other pretty ugly girls get ahead in the dating rat race...but not in life.
Be ambitious.Be Yourself.Stay hungry.Stay Foolish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): I;m 16 in 2 months. I've never had a boyfriend and no boy has ever shown an interest in me. I've come to the conclusion this is because i am unattractive, even though everyone else tells me I'm really pretty etc. I dont believe them. I'm a size twelve and went on a diet 4 weeks ago. So far, I've lost 10lbs and plan to lose a lot more. tip for pe - wear a skirt and put shorts/trousers on underneath skirt then take skirt off, and wear a top underneath your school top so when you take it off you have another top on underneath. This is what I do and no one ever sees anything I dont want them to. I know my current state of mind is a result of low self-esteem and paranoia, but the only thing i think i can do to get out of it is to diet, so thats what I'm doing. I hope you feel better about yourself xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): My name is Cheyenne and I'm 18 years old. I'm about to start going to school to be a psychologist so maybe I can help you.First off, you don't need to worry about what everyone else will think. You are making yourself become more and more paranoid because you think people won't like you because of your body. You need to learn how to love your body the way it is, if you don't nobdy else will. I'm sure there is somebody out there that can look past your body and see you. Everybody is unique and made differently! Accept yourself as you...
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