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writes:hi im fifteen and im living with a tweenty year old my familly hates him but we are in love what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 July 2010):
 Can you tell us why they hate him? Besides the obvious, that you are underage, a teenager, and presumably haven't finished high school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): First of all, what state are you in? Because I don't know any state that allows a 15 year-old girl with a 20 year-old man. I know someone who had the same situation except on the male side, and right now he's in jail so I would say be careful because things could get real ugly for you and him. You already said your parents don't like him, what would be the extreme they would go to prevent you from seeing him? It's like living in secret in fear of getting caught each day, right? Well, nobody can really force you to do anything you don't want to, but just think about the consequences of being caught.
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reader, shiva 4m kkd  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 worst just at the age of 15 u want love?????????????????????? get lost that man is much much elder than u
hey let me ask u 1 question did he proposed u or u????????
dam if he proposed u just 4 fun ma!!!! if u its attraction please don't mind! please leave dis 4 some time! please don't make trouble 4ur parents please
don't mind hope u make the right dessication
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): I think it's the age difference why they can't take a liking to him. The fact you're only 15 and under age at the minute, 5 years seems like a massive gap. However, as you get older 5 years is nothing really. If you're both adults, then it doesn't really matter.
I was with someone that age when I was 15 and my parents seemed to take more of a liking towards him as I got to 17.
I understand their concern. Their main concern is probably that you're living with him. It's a huge step for a young woman. Why are you living with him by the way? Are you pregnant? If not, always use protection if you're having sex!
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reader, Rainbow Attack  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Hello,This one is quite difficult because there are two sides of the agenda to deal with.First off all, if you are in love that's awesome! Love shouldn't have any boundaries so I wish you all the best and a happy relationship. On the other hand, bear in my mind how your parents must feel. The age gap is quite large and they are probably concerned with your well-being. For instance, they don't want you to feel pressurised by him or get pregnant etc.If these don't sound like the kind of things that would happen, then I hope everything goes well. Relationships are beautiful!Give your parents time to adjust to this relationship, I mean once you are older, 5 years won't seem like such a difference to them anymore.Good luck and much lovexxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): They should just let you get on with it, and hope that nothing disasterous occurs in the meantime like pregnancy etc. Your relationship will probably run its course in time and you will find someone new. But as for living with this man, i think you are a bit young for that.
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reader, 15 and Pregnant. +, writes (16 July 2010):
If you are in love, there's not much you can do. Your parent's should be happy with any decision you have chosen, Wether it's being with him, Or moving out. Hope this helps.
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