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writes:well theres a boy i knoww that i chat to oftenhe really likes me but theres one problem im 13 and hes 19 my mates say that he just wants one thing but hes not like that hes very sweet and looks out for me im not sure if i wanna be with him though but i cant find a way to tell him this and still be friends so i just act as if i like him i know its leading him on but i really dont know how i feel about him and i want to remain friends because hes a lovely person what do you recon i should do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (4 January 2009):
 I don't know if all he wants is sex, but I don't really think a 13 year old (even if you are a mature 13 years old) and a 19 year old have enough in common to have more then a friendship.
What does your parents think?
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (4 January 2009):
 now if i say he's a pedo someone will jump down my neck and say " you clearly don't understand the definition of a pedophile"
yes. he is only after sex. and yes he should and probably will go to jail one day and meet his new lover, Bald headed John - king of the plookers... you'll understand someday
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reader, Bliz  +, writes (4 January 2009):
Listen to your friends and avoid him like the plague. This is not a good situation for you to be in, and shame on him for setting things up this way. He most certainly knows better, but he is targeting you be cause he assumes that, as a 13 year old girl, you won't know any better.
As for feeling like you are leading him on, that is rubbish. You are not leading him on, he is an adult (you are not one just yet), he knows he should not be messing with 13 year olds.
His being sweet to you is an act, and he is only doing this so that you will feel either that he is a safe person for you to be around (he is not), or that you will owe him because he was looking out for you (you do not owe him a thing). That is him leading you on.
From the sound of it, you have some great friends already who are warning you about him. Spend time with them, and do not have any contact with this loser.
Please take care,
~Bliz
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reader, Harriet-Jayne +, writes (4 January 2009):
 I think cutting all ties with him would be harsh, i think to be safe until your older and more "wise", you should probably stay as friends, if he accepts this and still looks after you. There shouldnt be any reason why u cant push ur friendship further ( if you still want to) when your a few years older.
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reader, x_Hannah_x +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Age and Loveare two different things. Just because he's slightly older doesnt mean you dont enjoy each others company & get on well though. At the moment I would say to just be friends. At 13 your going through a pretty big change in your life & although its nice to have a bit of male attention, like your friends say he is quite a bit older and will be wanting sex soon. At 13 you don't need that kind of pressure. Tell him you just for to be mates for a bit and then maybe start to be in a relationship with him when your a bit older so the age gap doesn't matter as much. Hope this helped! Hannah x
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