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I'm 13 and I'm horny!

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Question - (24 November 2005) 43 Answers - (Newest, 24 February 2008)
A female , anonymous writes:

I need help! Please help me. I feel like I am going to die if I dont have sex. I can't though. I need to know another way to deal with it.

Oh yeah, the reason I cant have sex is because I am 13. But no one understands how I feel.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008):

im also 13 but because im male i wank all the itme.. i dont know if its healthy, but as a female yOu can also finger yourself, and sex at 13 is not so bad, i mean there are people who have sex at 14 and then at 15 give birth, but thats besides the point young moms have troubled lifes, so if You do have sex USE A CONDOM!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008):

i have sex with my bed all the time i really want real se but surely if your a girl you could just rub or finger yourself? (im 13 male)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008):

im 13 horny n i sex my pillow n visit porn sites but yo pillow has 2 be rolled up

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008):

yes I know what you meen Im 14 and mastrobast its so addecting! But I need to stop! how?!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007):

Well i am way horny and im 15 i have never wanted to have sex but i have used a vibrator since i wus a 6th grader.

I am not ashamed i love sticking a vibrator up my vagina. I got a vibrator from my mom, because she rather i have some nice pleasure rather than getting pregnant.

Yes for the G-Sp0t!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007):

I no I am the same way

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007):

haha i feel the same with her i want a gf that i could have sex with regularly and wont think much about it cuz its not a big deal... im soooo horny and its so annoying i cant rly do much about it haha

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007):

okay i am 13 as well i am presuming you have a boyfriend, i also had this problem but i gave in and had it. its perfectly normal as long as you use a condem, and the most important thing is making sure you love him and you will have a long relationship together. But omg sister it hurts soooo muchh u dont enjoy it till your like 5th time round then it feels okay so dont be to exited its not even a big deal.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007):

i try and find cammers about my age ( im 13 terning 14) and materbait to that and it helps alot its just like sex with out birth or child care

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A female reader, ask jenna United Kingdom +, writes (7 November 2007):

it is very common for you to feel horny at your age.What you could try is masturbating it is like having sex but you dont have sexual intercourse with another person

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007):

i know im the same but im 11

i wish i had a cure hope u get a cure

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007):

ive just turned 14. ive been masturbating for about a year and havent found my g-spot. i use the handle of a hairbrush. its fun and enjoyable but thats all. im in DESPERATE need of a vibrator. the thing is, i live with my dad and if he ever found out that his "little girl" got really horny he would be so upset. how the hell can i get one? :|

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007):

my parents dont know about me being as horny as i am.....ya im 13 to.....my parents are christians....and i go to a christian school......so......ya.....its kinda hard to get any thing.....vibrators.....and other items....impossible to get....im suffering

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007):

i'm 13,my mum's well cool she bought me a rampant rabbit when i was 12 coz i was gagging 2 try hers out, she caught me masturbating loads of times, i'm totally addicted 2 it, girls u gotta get one, wots wrong with being addicted anyway? its not like it bad for yer, i cum in from school and i'm like dying for a cum, the first thing i gotta do is switch my rabbit on, its such a relief. my mums well cool coz i keep disappearing upstairs about once an hour 2 masturbate and i bet she can hear my rabbit but she don't say anything. go 4 it girlz, orgasms rule

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007):

im a 13 year old and if my parents knew the real me, im REAL horny they would dis own me.....i need sex real bad i fell the same as u :(

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007):

OMG im 13 to i feel the same way it sucks!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007):

Hey hun,

I started feeling the same way when I was your age =) DONT have sex. Don't even fool around at all until you're older and absolutely know 100% you can stand the responsibility. If you're saying "Well I'm just not sure" then hell no you aren't ready! I'm 16 and I can tell you that the best toy that I have, and that is easy to find around the house is the handle of a hairbrush. If you're new at it start with something smaller or you'll hurt yourself. If you have a flexible shower heand then you can use that on the UPPER part of your "area" NEVER EVER shoot water directly inside of yourself you could get an infection and then you'll have to explain to your parents why it burns when you pee and then you'll have to explain it again to a doctor! Never use anythin that wil hurt you it's just not worth it. And make sure you can keep a grip on whatever it is you're using, you don't want to have to go to a geinocologist and say "Yea, well I was masturbating and now it's stuck." That would be embarrasing!As far as getting addicted to masturbation? Yea? So? It feels good, so hell, do it. There's no risk and it's fun once you find the right thing for you! =)

- Kat, 16

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (26 July 2007):

eyeswideopen agony aunttrust me, you aren't going to die. Hey to get your mind of it why don't you go to the nearest farm and see if you can find a vibrator shape like a duck.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007):

put ure hand on ure cock and go up and down its gr8 fun

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007):

im the same way always ready to have sex but cant wat u should do is masterbate

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007):

oh my god i cant really answer this qustion but i am also 13 (14 in november) and i masburbate with a toy vibrator i found at a farm once (its in the shape of a duck) i thought maybe u could try something similar!

good luck x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007):

well i am 12 to and i know how you feel i had sex with a guy and it was toattly and compleatly satisifying so if you r going to have sex do it and it wont hurt so bad u just need to make shure that u trust him so he wont tell any 1 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!Lol.

best wishes

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007):

well.. im 13 and i've been thinking as well about it. theres this guy that wants to do it... but im just not sure, yeah i want to do it too, but i dont think im ready. like.. what if i get pregnant? what if he dumps me right after we do it? what if hes only after my body? -- you know.. that kind of stuff.

ill just have to keep my knees together for a bit, no sex, but maybe just.. fooling around? its like a win-win situation

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A male reader, matt72893 United States +, writes (2 July 2007):

That last long segment was me, respond if you wanna argue, my email is [email address blocked]

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007):

Some of you people have no morals, I am 13 and I do NOT mastrobate. Even though most of you dont follow your religon (if you even have one). Mastrobating constantly is a sin, it solves absolutely nothing and just leaves you wanting more. I have a very close friend and he is addicted. If any of you get cought, im not gonna be sorry for you, I will laugh at you. Just wait wait till marrage to do all of that stuff, the first time with your life partner will be more enjoyable.

SAFE SEX IS NO SEX

my name is matt, I am 13, and I do NOT mastrobate.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007):

I'm 11 and I know exactly how you feel. I can't stop thinking about sex. I want to trie it, soon!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007):

Try masturbation, it really helps, there are lots of ways you can do it, even try it with a group of friends, it is really fun

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006):

i had sex at 13 aswell and i feel so ashamed as im 14 now and i did it again!but i whas forced i used to have sexual relise and still do now its so nice i seem to be addicted but then again i wunna have sex again ????and from haveing sex i feel like i have done very rong and now my mum and dad know and i realy upet them too but i dddent meen to what can i do

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006):

well you should mastrobate it feels like your haveing sex but only with your self now i dont mastrobate cuz i dont like it you should mastrobate and then wate untill ya olde anuf to have sexual relaishin ship

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2006):

dont worry..try masturbating or maybe get a cucumber oor carrot and try having sex with it..helped me

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006):

JEEBUS CRISPIES!!! I want to give masturbation advice, but I feel disturbed giving it to anyone that young... U know? Just do a Google search on how to masturbate.

Ah, I just realized that this is an old post. How do ppl find these threads? (rhetorical)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006):

sooo am i!!!i just stuck a brush down my vagina and its just hurt no pleasure!!but im 13 as well and horny as hell!!!how do i reach orgasm?what is orgasm like for a girl????

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006):

Yeah but I dont want my parents to know, what if they caught me, that would be so embarrasing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2006):

stick to the finger or vibrater. if you cant get a hold of one just go out and by yourself a shower head, or you could also try an electrical toothe brush. theres plenty of different ways. dont go running along having sex with boys. that will get you into trouble, like PREGNANCY! you dont want to get pregnant at this age. you'll ruin your fun teen years. i know from expierence. trust me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2006):

omg i so know how you feel i am only 12 and the way i can stop myself getting horny for sex is by fingering myself or useing a vibrator

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A male reader, omgaya +, writes (20 January 2006):

comletely natural my sister. i used to wait to get home so that i could mastrobate; we had a small house so i couldnt do it a room i had to do it in the toilet.

i am 35 and i still mastro.

there is nothing wrong with it. so sister go ahead and enjoy your self and dont ever feel guilty.

it is now a sin - i am sure god has sex. thats why he does not undestand why u have to frig

take care,

much love,

omgaya

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A female reader, gift_of_the_gab +, writes (27 November 2005):

I started experimenting when I was 14yo, just touching myself and observing what was what. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 17yo turning 18yo. And alot of my old high school mates didn't lose their's until 17yo. Thank goodness I lost it at that age and not at 13yo to 14yo. I reckon the generations are growing up too fast. Go play with Barbie or Bratz dolls or go and play a sport. Get your mind off sexual relationship; you’re too young at the moment. That's my opinion. Stick to chasing and kissing the boys. Having dating relationships. And writing I love B.F all over your high school books for now.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2005):

just try to calm urself down..I made a big mistake when i was 13 and ended up having sex with a guy that didn't even like me for me..trust me just wait till your older. It's not worth it .

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2005):

Are you crazy my parents would N-E-V-E-R let me buy a vibrator i need another way.

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A reader, Angel-lee +, writes (25 November 2005):

Buy a vibrator. Or get someone else who you trust to buy one for you. Take your time, please yourself, touch yourself gently. When you put it inside you go slow but deep and with your other hand carress you breasts and your clitoris, be patient with it though. Remember why do you need a man when you can please yourself.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2005):

Again the person that asked,

P.P.S, The thing that scares me is that I think I am ready for an real sexual emotional relationship. But I know I cant have one for at least 3 or 4 years.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2005):

This is the person that asked the question. How exactly do I mastrobate?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2005):

Sorry hon, but I had to laugh at your comment that "no one knows" how you feel... Quite the contrary. EVERYBODY who's ever been 13 - and that's only about 5 billion adults - knows EXACTLY how you feel.p /

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You're correct that you shouldn't be having sex at your age. At 13, the flesh is willing but the emotions just aren't up to the intimacy and the surprising strength of feeling that sex engenders. People used to fight duels to the *death* for the privilege of sex with a favoured partner. People still stuffer jealousy and have fights and are prepared to put up with abuse of the worst kind, just because they want sex with someone they feel they love. That's all 'way too much for someone as youthful as you to take on. And, believe me, because I lost my virginity at 13 1/2, which was a big mistake. I was scared and unready and the whole experience left me in tears. (I'm a woman, by the way.) /

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It's easy to make the mistake of thinking that you "need to have sex". You don't. What you need at this moment is sexual release, which is a completely different thing.p /

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So, what to do? Well, do what hundreds of millions - countless millions! - of humans have done throughout history when faced with your predicament: masturbate. It's safe, it's easy, it's available, it's natural, there are no diseases to worry about, nobody's feeling to hurt, and you can do it as often as the need strikes.p /

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I'm now at an age that you would consider way old, but when I was 13, I used to masturbate five, six times a day, every day. It only tapered off in my 20s.p /

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You'll need to get to know your body, anyway, the ways you prefer to be touched, the things that get you going. Learn to please yourself, so that when you're older (and pleeeeease don't start even considering sex until you're at least in your late teens!) you'll know how to enjoy sex with a partner.p /

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